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UPDATE: All the volumes are now in 1 digital book!

<figure id="attachment_8948" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-8948" style="width: 300px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/butterflies.jpg"><img decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-8948" title="butterflies" alt="" src="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/butterflies-300x218.jpg" width="300" height="218" srcset="https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/butterflies-300x218.jpg 300w, https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/butterflies-350x255.jpg 350w, https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/butterflies.jpg 450w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-8948" class="wp-caption-text">We need each other!</figcaption></figure> 95 pages of goodness! VOLUMES 1-3 This collection reads fast…like tv…and covers the topics: • “What is the Soul? & What is Soul Care?” This premise-building volume gets us to track from the same point onward. That fact is you and I need Soul Care, and we need it now. I’ll explain why. • Identity and Belonging We deal with core needs. This targets how to find your place in this world and in your calling of creating and message-bearing. Without our bearings we’ll get off-track and discouraged. This important message is one you don’t want to miss. • The 8 Paths of Learning • Utilize the paths for your own growth. Progress faster and better. • Guide others in a well-rounded process of knowledge and development • Fresh insights and information on the learning paths you already use • A potent approach to synthesizing and assimilating learning to produce transformation Written in a way to amuse and designed in a visual format that reads as fast as tv. You won’t get bogged down and it’s all. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=ntt_athr_dp_sr_1?_encoding=UTF8&field-author=Lisa%20Colón%20DeLay&search-alias=digital-text ">Find it at AMAZON here.</a> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> Posted on <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/for-creators-and-communicators-volumes-1-3/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2012-05-04T02:50:23-04:00">4 May, 2012</time><time class="updated" datetime="2014-03-17T07:52:24-04:00">17 March, 2014</time></a>Author <a class="url fn n" href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/author/admin/">Spark My Muse</a>Categories <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/authors/" rel="category tag">Authors</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/books/" rel="category tag">Books</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/creativity/" rel="category tag">Creativity</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/spark-my-muse/" rel="category tag">Podcast</a>Tags <a 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</article> <article id="post-6184" class="post-6184 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-authors category-spirituality tag-afterlife tag-amish tag-ancestry-com tag-ancient tag-app tag-author tag-bad tag-be tag-beliefs tag-best tag-blogger tag-book tag-caleb-wilde tag-calling tag-christ tag-christian tag-christianity tag-christians tag-circumstances tag-cold tag-confessions tag-confessions-of-funeral-director tag-creating tag-curse tag-dead tag-death tag-divine tag-do tag-emotions tag-events tag-faith tag-family tag-family-business tag-following tag-friends tag-funeral tag-funeral-director tag-god tag-good tag-goodness tag-grace tag-grief tag-heaven tag-help tag-holy tag-home tag-hopes tag-ideas tag-if tag-images tag-in tag-interview tag-iphone tag-jesus tag-job tag-jobs tag-justice tag-kind tag-knowledge tag-lancaster-county tag-life tag-light tag-lisa-colon-delay tag-memorial tag-mennonites tag-message tag-ministry tag-mortality tag-narrative tag-normal tag-numb tag-pa tag-pain tag-passion tag-pastor tag-pennsylvania tag-people tag-personal tag-perspective tag-process tag-question tag-questions tag-real tag-reality tag-record tag-religion tag-religious tag-remember tag-seminary tag-smart-phone tag-spiritual-formation tag-spiritual-growth tag-start tag-suffering tag-suicide tag-surprise tag-taking tag-tech tag-the-message tag-theology tag-theory tag-things tag-thoughts-on-god tag-time tag-understanding tag-vantage-point tag-video tag-videos tag-view tag-wait tag-why tag-will tag-wishes tag-wonder tag-work tag-worldviews"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/911-and-the-interview-confessions-of-a-funeral-director/" rel="bookmark">9/11; and the Interview & Confessions of a Funeral Director…</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content">   <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45rzOjWPWpU" target="_blank">View my 3 Part video interview with Caleb here.</a>   The 10th Anniversary of the 9/11 tragedy a week from this Sunday. We will once again see images and recount the horrors of that day, and try in memorial to accept the reality of this world. Most of us don’t encounter death and our own mortality too often. Most of us don’t constantly see suffering, and witness grief and loss. Please take some time today, or this weekend to remember that the events of 9/11 still bring pain to many. Loved ones are missed, and we can’t gloss over the national tragedy that left a collective hole in our hearts, even ten years later. This seems a fitting time to discuss an author who is very acquainted with death. It’s his job to be, and his perspective can be very helpful to us. As promised a couple of weeks earlier, the following is my personal interview with blogger and upcoming author Caleb Wilde, a 6th generation Funeral Director, seminary student, husband, and expectant adoptive dad. <blockquote>My Questions for Caleb:   1. Being a 6th generation funeral director, you have quite a unique vantage point on life, loss, and mortality. How do you think you live life differently than other Christians because of where God has placed you?   Caleb: In traditional religious calendars, the day in-between “Good Friday” and “Easter” is called “Holy Saturday”. “Holy Saturday” is the day the disciples’ hopes and beliefs were engulfed in death and silence, as they viewed their Messiah’s death without the knowledge of the resurrection. In some sense, I live the life of Holy Saturday. As funeral directors, we’re paid by families to be a human shield to death, whereby we make death somewhat easier, less real and more proper. As this human shield, I’m affected. I’m affected by the brokenness, by the grief, by the hopelessness I see in faces, by the newly fatherless/motherless children, the tragic deaths and the accidents. All this has made my personal faith more sensitive to questions of God’s goodness and justice. It’s not easy for me to understand ideas of “eternal hell”, or ideas of “meticulous divine providence” or even “absolute foreknowledge” or “omnipotence”. Sometimes I wonder if I’m still a Christian.   2. What do people misunderstand most about your work? Caleb: We’re a lot like pastors. Our jobs are really quite similar, except that one is recognized as “ministry” while the other is “business.” That’s probably the largest misconception … there’s no way funeral directors can meet with grieving families through the most difficult time of their lives and come out on the other side as “business people.” Everything else is true, though … we are dark and we are odd people. In ancient times, death practitioners were ostracized from normal society by rule. Today, we’re partly ostracized from the norm of society by practice.   3. The constant stream of customers (people dying, and their families burying them) can make one grow numb or cold toward the concept and process of death and burial. Do things still surprise you or impact you? What kind of things? Caleb: There’s something so unnatural about death that (save the very old) it’s difficult to become numb.   4. You’ve probably thought about what you’d want your own funeral to look and sound like. Can you tell us about that?   Caleb: About two years ago, I started taking one minute video clips of myself, so that by the time I’m 70, I should have a montage of age progression videos that can be used for my funeral. I’ve also talked about recording a message from myself to my family and friends that could be shown at my funeral as the eulogy. But, by the time I’m ready to die, I figure they’ll have holographic projections, so I’ll wait for that tech until I record my final goodbye.   5. The saddest funeral I ever went to was for a 13 year old boy who took his own life. What have you learned about people during the time of more tragic circumstances that you’ve been a part of?   Caleb: Funerals/death are a perfect storm: you have death, the inheritance money, high emotions and family you might not like too much who are around you all the time. Funerals intensify people’s real character. You see the best in people and you see the worst. The bad people will do horrendous things at funerals, like start fights, curse out their family members over money. And you can see Jesus in the good ones.   6. Do you find your work mostly depressing, hopeful, profound, mundane, etc.? Would you recommend this vantage point to others?   Caleb: It’s a tough ministry that has little boundaries. Many funeral homes are also generational, so many of us work with our dads, grandfathers, uncles and cousins, which can make this at-need work that much more difficult to set up healthy boundaries. Similar to any ministry, I think there should be a passion for death work … a calling of sorts, whereby you know this is what you’re supposed to do. And being a “calling”, few have witnessed this vantage point. It’s unique.   7. Do you want to stay in the family business? Why or why not? Caleb: Next question : )   8. Tell us a bit about how you view suffering, pain, and death from your unique perspective…which probably has a lot to do with the message in your book.   Caleb: I’ve built my understanding of God around suffering, pain and death. It’s a local theology. And my understanding of God, suffering, pain and death in light of my faith is the content of my upcoming book, “Confessions of a Funeral Director.” Hopefully, it will be out in less than a year. You can get an idea of how death has affected my view of God at my blog, <a href="http://www.calebwilde.com/">www.calebwilde.com</a>. My book, though, will contain much more narrative than my blog.   9. What’s your best idea for a Smart Phone app.?   Caleb: I live near Lancaster County (PA), home of the Amish and Mennonites, so there’s a lot of intermarrying in these parts. Not to mention, most of the towns in the rural areas of Pennsylvania have families that have lived there for centuries, so many of them are related. I have an idea to partner with <a href="http://Ancestry.com/">Ancestry.com</a> and create an app the lets you bump smart phones with another person and it will tell you how you’re related to them. My theory is that this will greatly help the evolution of humans by creating a purer gene pool. The apps name is “Bump it before you Hump it”.</blockquote> <div> THANK YOU, Caleb, and best wishes on your book. I’m really excited to get a copy. The working title for Caleb’s book is Confessions of Funeral Director. A bit more on that <a href="http://www.calebwilde.com/" target="_blank">here</a>. <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/187826_192751080749261_265019_n.jpg"><img decoding="async" title="187826_192751080749261_265019_n" alt="" src="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/187826_192751080749261_265019_n-179x300.jpg" width="179" height="300" /></a> So, my reader friends, what are you curious about? Ask Caleb your deep, dark, or even silly questions! </div> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> Posted on <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/911-and-the-interview-confessions-of-a-funeral-director/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2011-09-02T06:46:31-04:00">2 September, 2011</time><time class="updated" datetime="2014-04-19T18:09:29-04:00">19 April, 2014</time></a>Author <a class="url fn n" href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/author/admin/">Spark My Muse</a>Categories <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/authors/" rel="category tag">Authors</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/spirituality/" rel="category tag">Spirituality</a>Tags <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/afterlife/" rel="tag">afterlife</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/amish/" rel="tag">Amish</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/ancestry-com/" rel="tag">ancestry.com</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/ancient/" rel="tag">ancient</a>, <a 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class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/4-things-leaders-forget/" rel="bookmark">4 Things Leaders Forget</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/PhotoBridgeConstruction04.jpg"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="size-full wp-image-5403" title="PhotoBridgeConstruction04" src="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/PhotoBridgeConstruction04.jpg" alt="" width="535" height="350" srcset="https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/PhotoBridgeConstruction04.jpg 535w, https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/PhotoBridgeConstruction04-350x229.jpg 350w, https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/PhotoBridgeConstruction04-300x196.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 535px) 100vw, 535px" /></a> <dl id="attachment_5403" class="wp-caption aligncenter" style="width: 545px;"> <dd class="wp-caption-dd">Bridge Building Team </dd> </dl> My expertise is in personal, relational, ministerial, and spiritual growth. So, no, I’m not <a href="http://michaelhyatt.com">Michael Hyatt</a> who has loads of CEO experience. But, I tend to notice things that others don’t, and I know a few things about pitfalls. LEADERSHIP: Most of us are in some form of leadership. Maybe it’s in our community, as a youth sports coach, at our 9-5 job, as a parent, within an organization, or in some form of ministry. Honing our talents and skills is vital to our leadership success. I’ve identified 4 things many leaders forget. Do any of them describe you? What critical thing (or things) do YOU think leaders forget? 1. Leaders forget to notice untried (or potential) leaders and develop and mentor leadership in others. 2. Leaders may forget that leadership is more about character than capability or charisma. 3. A leader’s greatest strength will be tested by his (or her) corresponding weakness. 4. Failure in leadership is part of the process. Unpacking those 4 Things: 1. Notice and develop leadership in others. A critical part of leadership is realizing that the role of guiding outstrips that of commanding. Mentoring up-and-coming leaders is too often overlooked. Sadly, sometimes helping nurture other leaders even seen as an existential threat to one’s future leadership. But, nothing could be further from the truth. 2. Leadership is more about character than capability or charisma. I recently experienced a situation of, “Too many chiefs, and not enough Indians.” (Bear in mind, this phrase is actually misunderstanding regarding Native America tribal leadership. So-called “chiefs” functioned more as “big men” style leaders, not like a monarchy type of leadership and not often lineage-based. No elections either. A lack of confidence would propagate emergence of other “big men” leaders within tribes. Members would break off from the bigger group to follow them.) Sometimes when I work on a group project where action is needed, and I will opt the role of “minion worker bee”, even though the project may be an area of expertise or gifting. Weird, huh? I purposefully do not vie for a leadership role. At all. Why? Well, I learned this little gem “on-the-job”. Depending on the group, I may sense when a team possesses a quality of dominion instead of concert. That means “being heard” is overshadowing the project itself. In this situation, people will display the quirkiest parts of their personality in response to stress. They may appear overly opinionated, stubborn, emotional, or unduly vested in the matter at hand. Control or significance is the force at play, and usually the results will not turn out for the best. Sometimes personal growth comes from stepping back. In those cases, modeling character is more important that who’s message is the loudest. As leaders we can show the group through cooperative service the spirit and attitude that will achieve the best outcomes. As a leader, be willing to take a back seat for the greater good in the long run. Now is not the time to peacock your intelligence, capability, or persuasiveness, but rather to act in good character. 3. A leader’s greatest strength will be tested by his corresponding weakness. This one is easy to miss. This one needs your full attention: What has helped us in leadership can be our very downfall. Here’s an fictitious example: Joe Winnar is an extrovert. He’s great at taking action, and exciting others to join him in his vision for what lays ahead. So, his corresponding weakness could be that he steamrolls other’s ideas or contributions. For every gift we possess, we also have a weak point (or points) that can reveal a growing edge. This means it’s a likely pitfall where we will fail somehow in our leadership. 4. Failure in leadership is part of the process. This one stinks. Far more leaders fail instead of succeed. And in what regard? 9 times out of ten it will involve interpersonal issues. Leadership is made or broken at the relational level. For example: What happens when a leader cheats, lies, becomes abusive, or breaks faith with the group? Integrity is shattered, and relationships are damaged. If we are going to fail as leaders, it’ll likely center on, or least include, this aspect. There is no better way to avoid this other than keeping a close reign on our issues of humility. Not if, but when you fail, admit to your mistakes, don’t act faultless, work cooperatively, and don’t lose a teachable spirit. Comments? Suggestions? Insights?  </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> Posted on <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/4-things-leaders-forget/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2011-05-12T07:24:43-04:00">12 May, 2011</time><time class="updated" datetime="2012-10-01T18:18:30-04:00">1 October, 2012</time></a>Author <a class="url fn n" href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/author/admin/">Spark My Muse</a>Categories <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/spark-my-muse/" rel="category tag">Podcast</a>Tags <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/boss/" rel="tag">boss</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/capability/" rel="tag">capability</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/character/" rel="tag">character</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/chief/" rel="tag">chief</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/cooperation/" rel="tag">cooperation</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/employee/" rel="tag">employee</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/failure/" rel="tag">failure</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/leaders/" rel="tag">leaders</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/leadership/" rel="tag">leadership</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/learning/" rel="tag">learning</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/mentoring/" rel="tag">mentoring</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/michael-hyatt/" rel="tag">Michael Hyatt</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/ministry/" rel="tag">ministry</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/pastor/" rel="tag">pastor</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/pitfall/" rel="tag">pitfall</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/process/" rel="tag">process</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/teachable/" rel="tag">teachable</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/team/" rel="tag">team</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/training/" rel="tag">training</a><a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/4-things-leaders-forget/#comments">5 Comments on 4 Things Leaders Forget</a> </footer> </article> <article id="post-124" class="post-124 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-authors tag-ancient tag-blog tag-book tag-chip-macgregor tag-connection tag-cross tag-dark-night tag-darkness tag-depression tag-depth tag-discouragement tag-divine tag-dry tag-future tag-god tag-good tag-growth tag-help tag-illness tag-in tag-invitation tag-john tag-life tag-listening-to-god tag-medical tag-monk tag-needs tag-negative tag-night tag-personal-growth tag-poetry tag-post tag-practices tag-prayer tag-process tag-senses tag-spanish tag-spiritual tag-spiritual-growth tag-spiritual-practices tag-spirituality tag-suffering tag-taking tag-thoughts tag-time tag-treatment tag-update tag-welcome tag-will tag-word tag-work tag-writing"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/dark-night-of-the-soul-part-1/" rel="bookmark">Dark Night of the Soul- Part 1</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> Q: Where did the term “dark night of the soul” come from? R: The phrase first turned up in the poetry of Spanish Carmelite monk John of the Cross in the 16th Century. He composed many poems while in torment in prison. Q: “Dark” seems awfully negative, is it? R: In Spanish the term is closer to the word “obscure”. Though the process may be confusing and painful, “dark” is not implying a negative state. It is a description, especially once one is aware of the progression of growth involved, and knows how the dawn will approach. Q: Is the “dark night of the soul” the same as depression? R: No. It’s also not a “spiritual term” for the suffering of someone who needs help for trauma/abuse, medical treatment for illness (mental and otherwise), and/or therapy. Sometimes the two states are seen hand-in-hand, and many times they are not. Q: Are there different kinds of “dark nights” of the soul? R: Yes. John of the Cross spoke of a “dark night” involving the senses, and one involving the spirit. One may have numerous dark nights of the senses. (I will go into more detail in future posts.) Q: What is a good way to recognize a “dark night”. R: A dark night of the senses may “feel” as though modes of prayer, experiencing the spiritual, or spiritual practices don’t “work” or satisfy. God may “feel” out of reach, distant, unavailable, or gone. It may feel like a dry period, or a time of being in a spiritual dessert. (This is not cause for discouragement or alarm, but for stamina. It is a Divine invitation for growth, and greater spiritual depth beyond what one knows. I will elaborate on what is taking place more in future posts.) Next time I will post about the “dark night and ‘union with God’,” the process of the “dark night,” any questions/responses that come in from this post, and more. Come back soon. Information taken from my reading: Gerald G. May, M.D. The Dark Night of the Soul: A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth. Harper San Francisco, 2004. My (upcoming) book Life as Prayer: A New Paradigm for contemporary Spirituality Inspired by Ancient Piety dedicates a whole chapter to this topic. I will update this blog with details as this work continues. Thanks for your interest. I welcome your thoughts and comments. <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/blog/2009/03/17/the-dark-night-of-the-soul-part-ii/">Now, Read PART II</a> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> Posted on <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/dark-night-of-the-soul-part-1/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2009-03-10T02:06:32-04:00">10 March, 2009</time><time class="updated" datetime="2013-01-15T20:12:05-04:00">15 January, 2013</time></a>Author <a class="url fn n" href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/author/admin/">Spark My Muse</a>Categories <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/category/authors/" rel="category tag">Authors</a>Tags <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/ancient/" rel="tag">ancient</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/blog/" rel="tag">blog</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/book/" rel="tag">book</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/chip-macgregor/" rel="tag">chip Macgregor</a>, <a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/tag/connection/" 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tag-love tag-pastoral tag-pastoral-resources tag-paulist-press tag-process tag-resources tag-response tag-separation-anxiety tag-show tag-spiritual tag-spiritual-growth tag-thoughts"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://lisadelay.com/blog/grief-loss-separation-anxiety/" rel="bookmark">Grief = loss, separation anxiety</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> A few insightful excerpts from recent reading: Grief is the (normal) human emotional response to loss. It is a common part of human experience and may produce growth. We can lose people, places, objects, relationships, and even ideas. Some losses may not be actual, but anticipated, or a perceived loss. (25) Acute grief looks remarkably similar to a classic anxiety attack (same physical symptoms). It is similar to the feelings felt in fear. In grief one fears the loss of self through separation, and experiences separation anxiety. (28) It is a function of attachment. It can be understood also as our emotions catching up with our reality. (38) The more we can love the more we can grieve. Our abnormal attachments show up (caused by an improper process of grieving) as permanent emotional detachment or heightened attachment. (30) R. Scott Sullender, “Grief and Growth: Pastoral Resources for Emotional and Spiritual Growth” Paulist Press, 1985. <iframe style="width:120px;height:240px;" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=thbloflicode-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0809126524&asins=0809126524&linkId=PC2OG2RSTDJ5KRT6&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true"> 
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