{"id":15453,"date":"2015-01-26T20:24:18","date_gmt":"2015-01-27T01:24:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?p=15453"},"modified":"2015-01-20T22:18:53","modified_gmt":"2015-01-21T03:18:53","slug":"the-familiar-enemies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/the-familiar-enemies\/","title":{"rendered":"The Familiar Enemies"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-15466\" src=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Risk-300x200.png\" alt=\"Risk\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Risk-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Risk-350x234.png 350w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Risk-150x100.png 150w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Risk.png 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Below are some of my &#8220;field notes&#8221; I collected from this extended and uncut interview with Bren\u00e9 Brown on Krista Tippet&#8217;s show &#8220;On Being&#8221;<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>[emotionally toxic \/\u00a0unhealthy] people suffer from similar traits:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Perfectionism<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Self-righteousness<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Tying self-worth and personal value to productivity and success<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Wanting to perform and get validation<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Using exhaustion as a badge of honor<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 The quest for certainty<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Quote\/snippets<\/strong><br \/>\n\u2022 The enemy of creativity is comparison.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Vulnerability is the core the heart and the center of meaningful human experience.<\/p>\n<p>For woman the biggest fear\/risk looks like this: &#8220;do it all and do it well and look perfect doing it&#8221;.<br \/>\nFor man it looks like this: &#8220;do not appear to be weak&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>If people have never really struggled with adversity it shows up as hopelessness.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Hope is not an emotion; it&#8217;s a cognitive behavior process that is a function of struggle [and resiliency]. It doesn&#8217;t happen in the absence of pain or when we are spared pain.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>Our defining moments (what makes us who we really are) happen not in joy but in adversity.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>(<strong><em>Vulnerability<\/em><\/strong> is uncertainly, risk and emotional exposure &#8230;.and it&#8217;s courage.\u00a0<span style=\"color: #00ff00;\">&#8212;my note: all things artists and innovators MUST have.<\/span>)<\/p>\n<p>When we don&#8217;t have space to be vulnerable and have fears we become dangerous.<\/p>\n<p>If these sound like helpful, juicy nuggets to you, listen here:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/w.soundcloud.com\/player\/?url=https%3A\/\/api.soundcloud.com\/tracks\/123842773&amp;auto_play=true&amp;color=00acd6\" width=\"100%\" height=\"166\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hope is not an emotion; it&#8217;s a cognitive behavior process that is a function of struggle [and resiliency]. 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