{"id":16493,"date":"2015-09-15T02:25:53","date_gmt":"2015-09-15T08:25:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?p=16493"},"modified":"2015-09-26T12:02:02","modified_gmt":"2015-09-26T18:02:02","slug":"esp-26-when-childhood-suffering-is-transfigured-into-a-thriving-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/esp-26-when-childhood-suffering-is-transfigured-into-a-thriving-life\/","title":{"rendered":"EPS 26: When Childhood Suffering is Transfigured into a Thriving Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">IMPORTANT NEWS:<br \/>\n<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>To\u00a0hear shows\u00a0weekly, as usual, help me buy more hosting space. (AND I&#8217;m hoping to go to two shows per week, once financial support rolls in! YAY!)<\/h3>\n<p>A little $1 &#8211;\u00a0$10 lovin&#8217; from you, and each listener, will make it possible.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">If you&#8217;d like to help click <a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/cgi-bin\/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&amp;hosted_button_id=KVNWHBFV8MHF6\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a>. Thank you!<\/h3>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">AND Thanks for supporting the project of Spark My Muse through listening, reading the show notes, reviewing the show in iTunes, and sharing it with friends, too! You are awesome.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>xo<\/p>\n<p><em>~Lisa<\/em><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>NEW!<br \/>\nJoin in for weekly LIVE\u00a0interactive discussions each Tuesday about that week&#8217;s\u00a0podcast topic! VIEW UPCOMING topics and subscribe to join in\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/blab.im\/LisaDelay\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a>.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong>INTRO TO THE EPS 26:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Melissa Wilson didn&#8217;t just survive mistreatment as a child, she worked to heal from it, redeem it, and establish\u00a0a platform to help sufferers and advocate for those\u00a0who are suffering now\u00a0or\u00a0wounded from the past.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Melissa converses with me about how she found healing and the joy of transforming her pain into a thriving website and podcast that shares stories of victory, triumph, and overcoming great odds.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t let your past define you. Here are some ways you can move forward and even find a valuable\u00a0mission in life.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2FGrassGetsGreener.mp3&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2Fesp-26-when-childhood-suffering-is-transfigured-into-a-thriving-life%2F\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"100%\" height=\"165\" frameborder=\"0\" id=\"blubrryplayer-1\" class=\"blubrryplayer\" title=\"Blubrry Podcast Player\"><\/iframe><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/GrassGetsGreener.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?powerpress_pinw=16493-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a 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played a huge part in the process of getting to a point of thriving and peace.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf someone\u2019s hurt us we forgiven for ourselves and not for the person who caused the pain.<\/p>\n<p>13:20<\/p>\n<p>The aspect of the continual forgiveness process.<\/p>\n<p>15:00<\/p>\n<p>Every story of surviving is important.<\/p>\n<p>17:00<\/p>\n<p>What helped her most in the process of healing and the first barrier that stood in her way was stigma.<\/p>\n<p>18:00<\/p>\n<p><strong>The crisis event that sparked clarity to get therapy to heal.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>20:00<\/p>\n<p>How talking it out helped her and gave her confidence, and she even spent some time traveling in Europe alone.<\/p>\n<p>22:00<\/p>\n<p>How she developed social anxiety problems and then came to overcome them.<\/p>\n<p>23:00<\/p>\n<p>Post-Traumatic Stress symptoms and high adrenaline responses.<\/p>\n<p>23:30<\/p>\n<p>Finding a safe place and an outside perspective to find space from the trauma and grow in self-awareness.<\/p>\n<p>25:00<\/p>\n<p>The impact on relationships, trust, and bonding.<\/p>\n<p>28:00<\/p>\n<p>Rebounding and developing good friendship and meeting her now-husband as she got well.<\/p>\n<p>31:00<\/p>\n<p>On deciding what to make public.<\/p>\n<p>33:00<\/p>\n<p>Becoming who you really are and meeting new people at that point.<\/p>\n<p>33:30<\/p>\n<p>We attract people who are healthier because we are healthier.<\/p>\n<p>34:00<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cYou have to connect with people who aren\u2019t going to try to hurt you and who are going support you.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>35:30<\/p>\n<p>Creating a family of choice, the core people who will help you be most well.<\/p>\n<p>36:00<\/p>\n<p><strong>Connecting unawares with people who remind you of old pain.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>36:30<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You are most vulnerable on the road to recovery.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>37:20<\/p>\n<p>Feed your mind with the right stuff that\u2019s going to inspire and 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