{"id":17666,"date":"2016-01-29T05:05:35","date_gmt":"2016-01-29T10:05:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?p=17666"},"modified":"2016-01-29T19:15:43","modified_gmt":"2016-01-30T00:15:43","slug":"eps-47-specific-behaviors-that-lead-to-happiness-guest-benjamin-hardy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/eps-47-specific-behaviors-that-lead-to-happiness-guest-benjamin-hardy\/","title":{"rendered":"EPS 47: Specific Behaviors That Lead to Happiness &#8211; Guest Benjamin Hardy"},"content":{"rendered":"<iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2FBenHardy.mp3&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2Feps-47-specific-behaviors-that-lead-to-happiness-guest-benjamin-hardy%2F\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"100%\" height=\"165\" frameborder=\"0\" id=\"blubrryplayer-1\" class=\"blubrryplayer\" title=\"Blubrry Podcast Player\"><\/iframe><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/BenHardy.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?powerpress_pinw=17666-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/BenHardy.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"BenHardy.mp3\">Download<\/a> (Duration: 45:15 &#8212; 62.1MB) | <a href=\"#\" class=\"powerpress_link_e\" title=\"Embed\" onclick=\"return powerpress_show_embed('17666-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Embed<\/a><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_embed_box\" id=\"powerpress_embed_17666-podcast\" style=\"display: none;\"><input id=\"powerpress_embed_17666-podcast_t\" type=\"text\" value=\"&lt;iframe src=&quot;https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2FBenHardy.mp3&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2Feps-47-specific-behaviors-that-lead-to-happiness-guest-benjamin-hardy%2F&quot; scrolling=&quot;no&quot; width=&quot;100%&quot; height=&quot;165&quot; frameborder=&quot;0&quot; id=&quot;blubrryplayer-2&quot; class=&quot;blubrryplayer&quot; title=&quot;Blubrry Podcast Player&quot;&gt;&lt;\/iframe&gt;\" onclick=\"javascript: this.select();\" onfocus=\"javascript: this.select();\" style=\"width: 70%;\" readOnly><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_subscribe_links\">Subscribe to Spark My Muse <a href=\"https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/spark-my-muse\/id988423690?mt=2&amp;ls=1#episodeGuid=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2F%3Fp%3D17666\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_itunes\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on Apple Podcasts\" rel=\"nofollow\">Apple Podcasts<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/feed\/podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_spotify\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on Spotify\" rel=\"nofollow\">Spotify<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/subscribebyemail.com\/feeds.podcastmirror.com\/spark-my-muse\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_email\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe by Email\" rel=\"nofollow\">Email<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/feed\/podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_tunein\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on TuneIn\" rel=\"nofollow\">TuneIn<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/feeds.podcastmirror.com\/spark-my-muse\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_rss\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe via RSS\" rel=\"nofollow\">RSS<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/spark-muse-podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_more\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe to Spark My Muse\" rel=\"nofollow\">Subscribe to Spark My Muse<\/a><\/p><p>I like to define happiness as &#8220;sturdy joy&#8221; and there is some science that shows us that <strong>specific<\/strong> behaviors increase it in our lives. Benjamin Hardy&#8217;s article on the topic caught my attention and I had to have him on the podcast to share his findings.<\/p>\n<p>Scroll down for detailed show notes and don&#8217;t forget to come back every Wednesday for a &#8220;Soul School&#8221; episode and each Friday for a special guest episode.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Pasted-Graphic.tiff\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-17669\" src=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"BenjaminHardy\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-200x200.jpg 200w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-350x350.jpg 350w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy-60x60.jpg 60w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/BenjaminHardy.jpg 512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben is a writer and a PhD candidate in\u00a0Industrial and Organizational Psychology\u00a0at Clemson University.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/BenjaminPHardy\" target=\"_blank\">Ben&#8217;s twitter<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/benjaminhardy.com\" target=\"_blank\">Ben&#8217;s website<\/a><\/p>\n<p>SHOW NOTES<\/p>\n<p>MIN: 1<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/benjaminhardy.com\/books\/\" target=\"_blank\">Slipstream Time Hacking the book<\/a>\u00a0and Ben&#8217;s philosophy on &#8220;experienced time&#8221; and perceived reality.<\/p>\n<p>The movie Interstellar<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"width: 120px; height: 240px;\" src=\"\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=ss_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=thbloflicode-20&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=US&amp;placement=B00TU9UO1W&amp;asins=B00TU9UO1W&amp;linkId=3O6GA4NUHN7BKSKG&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><br \/>\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>MIN 4:<br \/>\nShortcuts to goals.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/medium.com\" target=\"_blank\">Medium<\/a><\/p>\n<p>MIN 7:30<br \/>\nHow do you define &#8220;happiness&#8221;?<\/p>\n<p>State of mind no matter the circumstances.<br \/>\n<strong>Do something every day that terrifies you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"width: 120px; height: 240px;\" src=\"\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=ss_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=thbloflicode-20&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=US&amp;placement=B009U9S6FI&amp;asins=B009U9S6FI&amp;linkId=TK4VIICS3JAZOL5H&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><br \/>\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>MIN 9:<br \/>\nLiving according to your beliefs.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 10:<br \/>\nPrinciples vs. moods<br \/>\n&#8220;every principle has a promise&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"width: 120px; height: 240px;\" src=\"\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=ss_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=thbloflicode-20&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=US&amp;placement=B00R6M8EEE&amp;asins=B00R6M8EEE&amp;linkId=H7EMUEAHEGRPQSBK&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><br \/>\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Happiness cannot be directly pursued. Happiness comes first (not after you get something or somewhere). &#8220;Happiness is the way.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>MIN 12:00<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.myersbriggs.org\" target=\"_blank\">The Myers-Briggs test<\/a> and being future thinking and not here and happy now.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.kolbe.com\/assessments\/kolbe-a-index\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kolbe A Index text<\/a><\/p>\n<p>MIN 14:30<br \/>\n&#8220;Be where you are.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>MIN 16:00<br \/>\nStudies show that Anticipation is better than the actual thing.<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/2015\/12\/16\/soul-school-lesson-10-the-secret-power-of\/\" target=\"_blank\">The Soul School episode on that very thing.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>MIN 18:30<br \/>\nHigh Stakes and no exits and &#8220;the point of no return&#8221; and big promises<\/p>\n<p>MIN 19:30<br \/>\nTim Ferriss the stick works better than the carrot.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 20<br \/>\nThe endowment effect<\/p>\n<p>MIN 22:00<br \/>\n<strong>#8 Do something every day that terrifies you.<\/strong><br \/>\nDarren Hardy &#8220;Be courageous 15 seconds a day.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Our anticipation builds up fears to think the outcome or experience are much worse than they actually are.<\/p>\n<p>Push yourself to grow.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 25:30<br \/>\nMost risks are inflated by our perceptions.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 28<br \/>\nWe adapt during our experiences. We can take on challenge to create growth.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 29<br \/>\n<strong>#9 Put the important before the urgent<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Defend the important from the urgent thing that suck away time from you.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 32<br \/>\nPut things in order.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 34<br \/>\n&#8220;If you wait for too many tomorrows you&#8217;ll find that you got a lot of empty yesterdays.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Steven Covey<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"width: 120px; height: 240px;\" src=\"\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;source=ss&amp;ref=ss_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=thbloflicode-20&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=US&amp;placement=B00GOZV3TM&amp;asins=B00GOZV3TM&amp;linkId=FAW4VXQPQQJMC2BY&amp;show_border=true&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=true\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><br \/>\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>MIN 36<br \/>\nSetting time limits and realizing what your time is worth.<\/p>\n<p>MIN 38<br \/>\n#10 Forego the good to pursue the best<br \/>\nBad on your values.<br \/>\n&#8220;Never let a goal to be accomplished be more important than a person to be loved.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Jim Collins &#8220;Good is the enemy of great.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>MIN 40:30<br \/>\nBen&#8217;s goat farm experience with his wife Lauren.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.wwoof.net\" target=\"_blank\">WWOOF<\/a><\/p>\n<p>VIDEO<br \/>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VV7MoqYJpBY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Read the whole article:<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"entry-title pt\"><a href=\"https:\/\/benjaminhardy.com\/the-secret-to-happiness-is-10-specific-behaviors\/\" target=\"_blank\">The Secret to Happiness Is 10 Specific Behaviors<\/a><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2FBenHardy.mp3&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2Feps-47-specific-behaviors-that-lead-to-happiness-guest-benjamin-hardy%2F\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"100%\" height=\"165\" frameborder=\"0\" id=\"blubrryplayer-3\" class=\"blubrryplayer\" title=\"Blubrry Podcast Player\"><\/iframe><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/BenHardy.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?powerpress_pinw=17666-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/BenHardy.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"BenHardy.mp3\">Download<\/a> (Duration: 45:15 &#8212; 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