{"id":27396,"date":"2026-06-03T00:08:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-03T04:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?p=27396"},"modified":"2026-05-25T17:28:04","modified_gmt":"2026-05-25T21:28:04","slug":"softness-and-desire-guest-robert-j-monson","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/softness-and-desire-guest-robert-j-monson\/","title":{"rendered":"Softness and Desire: Guest, Robert J. Monson"},"content":{"rendered":"<iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2FSoftnessDesiremonson_.mp3&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2Fsoftness-and-desire-guest-robert-j-monson%2F\" scrolling=\"no\" width=\"100%\" height=\"165\" frameborder=\"0\" id=\"blubrryplayer-1\" class=\"blubrryplayer\" title=\"Blubrry Podcast Player\"><\/iframe><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/SoftnessDesiremonson_.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?powerpress_pinw=27396-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/media.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/content.blubrry.com\/spark_my_muse\/SoftnessDesiremonson_.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"SoftnessDesiremonson_.mp3\">Download<\/a> (Duration: 29:37 &#8212; 40.7MB) | <a href=\"#\" class=\"powerpress_link_e\" title=\"Embed\" onclick=\"return powerpress_show_embed('27396-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Embed<\/a><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_embed_box\" id=\"powerpress_embed_27396-podcast\" style=\"display: none;\"><input id=\"powerpress_embed_27396-podcast_t\" type=\"text\" value=\"&lt;iframe src=&quot;https:\/\/player.blubrry.com\/?media_url=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2Fcontent.blubrry.com%2Fspark_my_muse%2FSoftnessDesiremonson_.mp3&amp;podcast_link=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2Fsoftness-and-desire-guest-robert-j-monson%2F&quot; scrolling=&quot;no&quot; width=&quot;100%&quot; height=&quot;165&quot; frameborder=&quot;0&quot; id=&quot;blubrryplayer-2&quot; class=&quot;blubrryplayer&quot; title=&quot;Blubrry Podcast Player&quot;&gt;&lt;\/iframe&gt;\" onclick=\"javascript: this.select();\" onfocus=\"javascript: this.select();\" style=\"width: 70%;\" readOnly><\/p><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_subscribe_links\">Subscribe to Spark My Muse <a href=\"https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/spark-my-muse\/id988423690?mt=2&amp;ls=1#episodeGuid=https%3A%2F%2Flisadelay.com%2Fblog%2F%3Fp%3D27396\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_itunes\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on Apple Podcasts\" rel=\"nofollow\">Apple Podcasts<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/feed\/podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_spotify\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on Spotify\" rel=\"nofollow\">Spotify<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/subscribebyemail.com\/feeds.podcastmirror.com\/spark-my-muse\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_email\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe by Email\" rel=\"nofollow\">Email<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/feed\/podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_tunein\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe on TuneIn\" rel=\"nofollow\">TuneIn<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/feeds.podcastmirror.com\/spark-my-muse\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_rss\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe via RSS\" rel=\"nofollow\">RSS<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/spark-muse-podcast\/\" class=\"powerpress_link_subscribe powerpress_link_subscribe_more\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Subscribe to Spark My Muse\" rel=\"nofollow\">Subscribe to Spark My Muse<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Today, I give you some excerpts from my live chat conversation with scholar <a href=\"https:\/\/musingsfromabrokenheart.substack.com\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/musingsfromabrokenheart.substack.com\"><strong>Robert J. Monson<\/strong><\/a>. We speak together some about the desert elders, but also about Robert&#8217;s work at the intersection of Blackness, disability, and softness (among other things) and we get into the topics of lust, sexuality, desire which the church has notoriously gotten wrong. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Please find the full replay of our time <a href=\"https:\/\/youtube.com\/@Sparkmymuse\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"youtube.com\/@Sparkmymuse\">here<\/a> (the Spark My Muse youtube channel), if you&#8217;d like. 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