{"id":7033,"date":"2011-11-25T05:19:01","date_gmt":"2011-11-25T10:19:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?p=7033"},"modified":"2011-11-26T11:09:43","modified_gmt":"2011-11-26T16:09:43","slug":"5-ways-to-get-whatever-you-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/5-ways-to-get-whatever-you-want\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Get Whatever you Want"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/businessman.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-7038\" title=\"businessman\" src=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/businessman-230x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"230\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/businessman-230x300.jpg 230w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/businessman-350x456.jpg 350w, https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/businessman.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 230px) 100vw, 230px\" \/><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Shun Meaningful Relationships<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The problem with interpersonal intimacy is that it diminishes one&#8217;s ability to hone self-centeredness. Once others start to matter you sometimes have to take them into consideration. Two Words, people: <em>Lone Wolf.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>2. Don&#8217;t Get Married\/Stay Married<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>One of the first things you learn, and then continue to learn repeatedly through the years, is that marriage puts your selfishness under a looming, bright, hot spotlight. There is no need to build those skills of negotiating compromise, because unfettered selfishness is crucial to consistently getting what you want.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>3. Don&#8217;t Be A Good Parent<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>From birth children are needy. Constantly, one must put his children&#8217;s welfare ahead of his own. Even one&#8217;s ambitious and preferences routinely are relegated to second priority, or much worse. All this practice of deferring weakens you, so you hardly ever get whatever you want. I&#8217;ve seen this happen a ton of times.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>4. Don&#8217;t Commit to People or Ideals<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Believing in something, or being loyal, severely compromises your abilities to get whatever you want. One minute you&#8217;re doing something nice for someone, or some cause, and the next minute your going well out of your way. Talk about getting derailed!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>5. Don&#8217;t Grow Compassionate<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>As people elicit your pity, or draws you into some sort of endearment, it lights the fuse on the bomb that will eventually explode your efforts to get whatever you want.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><em><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 14px; line-height: 23px;\">If you can avoid all these trappings, you will probably grow expert at getting whatever you want. Of course don&#8217;t expect anyone to like it, or like you. As a kind of plague to those in your world, you will continue to seek meaning, but only find it rarely; and even then it will be fleetingly.<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><strong><em><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 14px; line-height: 23px;\">Have you been harmed selfishness?<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8230;unfettered selfishness is crucial to consistently getting what you want&#8230; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5626],"tags":[195,774,1550,1921,5320,2158,2482,5321,2834,3022,3195],"class_list":["post-7033","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-spark-my-muse","tag-ambition","tag-compassion","tag-growth","tag-kids","tag-marriage","tag-maturity","tag-parenting","tag-pity","tag-relationships","tag-selfishness","tag-spiritual-formation"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7033","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7033"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7033\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7040,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7033\/revisions\/7040"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7033"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7033"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7033"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}