{"id":7287,"date":"2011-12-12T15:16:48","date_gmt":"2011-12-12T20:16:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/?p=7287"},"modified":"2012-10-09T09:28:23","modified_gmt":"2012-10-09T14:28:23","slug":"5-reasons-you-cant-fix-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/5-reasons-you-cant-fix-people\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Reasons You can&#8217;t Fix People"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_7289\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-7289\" style=\"width: 263px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/sv.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Anv\u00e4ndare:PER9000\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-7289\" title=\"tools\" src=\"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/12\/tools.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"263\" height=\"187\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-7289\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">creative commons photo. click for attribution.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<ul>\n<li>(#1) Sorry to be blunt, but <strong>it&#8217;s just not your job.<\/strong> It never was.<\/li>\n<li><strong>(#2) You&#8217;re pretty crappy at fixing yourself<\/strong>.<br \/>\n<em>If you were good at fixing yourself, you would&#8217;t want to fix other people.<\/em><br \/>\nIn them (the &#8220;un-fixed&#8221;) you see yourself.<\/li>\n<li>(#3) You <strong><strong>don&#8217;t have that kind of power. It&#8217;s inappropriate to think you do.<\/strong><\/strong><\/li>\n<li>(#4) People resent the <strong>condescension<\/strong>, so even if you try to be <em>kind<\/em> in the fixing it&#8217;s counterproductive.<\/li>\n<li><strong>(#5) People are supposed to have some unfixable spots<\/strong>.<br \/>\n<em>I write about &#8220;broken jars&#8221; <a href=\"http:\/\/is.gd\/MDTn5d\">here<\/a>.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>What are the alternatives?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Walk <em>with<\/em> people<\/li>\n<li>Be a good influence<\/li>\n<li>listen more<\/li>\n<li>love more<\/li>\n<li>learn more<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"line-height: 24px;\"><strong>What are some reasons or alternatives for you?<\/strong><br \/>\n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>#2 You&#8217;re pretty crappy at fixing yourself. If you were good at fixing yourself, you would&#8217;t want to fix other people. In them you see yourself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5626],"tags":[1524,1550,6538,51,2512,2521,2534,2834,3195,74,90],"class_list":["post-7287","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-spark-my-muse","tag-grace","tag-growth","tag-humor","tag-ministry","tag-peace","tag-people","tag-personal-growth","tag-relationships","tag-spiritual-formation","tag-spiritual-growth","tag-worldviews"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7287","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7287"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7287\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7298,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7287\/revisions\/7298"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7287"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7287"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lisadelay.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7287"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}