This weekend we met for class (the rest of the learning happens online).
The time was packed with insights and new material, all of which will be so helpful not just with getting to know my fellow-learners, but in every environment I am leading in and will lead in.
The course centers on leadership theories and involves a lot of searching and self-awareness, learning of one’s strengths, temperaments, and personal leadership styles. Sometimes this is encouraging, but other times the process reveals blind spots, wounds, and flaws.
I’ve realized that a wounded but healed leader is the easiest for me to trust.
The insights we gain from knowing ourself and others better works like getting bionic limbs just before we climb a mountain. Things that were confusing, personalities that seemed perplexing, and the power for gifts and talents laser into focus.
Here are a few of the books I’m learning from that I’ve really been enjoying. (Two Big thumbs up!)
Another test I took for the course has to do with using a social and emotional competency inventory tool (ESCI). Social and emotional intelligence is too rare a commodity in bosses, in case you haven’t heard. :)
Plus, I did the Myers-Briggs Test. (I’m an EN(F/T)P, almost split F&T) Have you ever taken the Myers-Briggs test? (If so, what are your letters?)
Have you taken the Strength Finder test (it comes with the book)?
I highly recommend it! You will be blessed and so will those you influence!
The ones with “*” are just made up for the sake of humor. (Let’s just say, I like to insert humor, and yet be an insightful resource for you. Your welcome people of earth.)
THE TEST
Answer yes or no:
1. You spend more than two hours a day interacting with/using technology.
2. You have extraordinarily strong thumbs compared to an Amish person.*
3. You have a short attention span, which has gotten shorter. (Finishing this self-test even seems like a challenge at this point.)
4. You have trouble sleeping at few times per week.
5. Your short term memory seems to be suffering. (Like right now, for instance, you might even have to concentrate to remember why you wanted to take this self-test in the first place).
6. You like to change channels on the tv a lot, and you bounce from thing to thing online, at work, and at home.
7. If you set out to do something, and get online, or start texting, you tend to get distracted from your original task or objective. (Maybe-just now-you were checking on the news, email, or something, and whoops here you are taking this test, ’cause, “heck, it’ll only take a minute!”)
8. You get more than 1 headache a week.
9. You’d contemplate enhancing your brain with extra RAM or flash memory, (if it were possible.)*
10. 48 hours with no technology seems quite unlikely, or basically a bad idea.
HOW DID YOU DO?
1 or more YES answers mean your thought patterns (and your actual physical grey matter) is being altered by the “cooperation with technology.” So, basically you could be “less human” than you were just a short while ago. Okay, I just made all that up about the test answers. It’s not scientific. Nevertheless, beyond the silliness, the point stands: What we do and think thoroughly (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically) changes us. For real.
Please post your results, out of 10. Let’s see how we all stack up.
(My number is 10 of 10…usually)
From studying the brain, scientists have found that repeated thoughts and mental or physcial actions (like texting, reading, speaking, running, etc.) actually create physicalgrooves in the brain, not just faster neuron pathways. When we practice a skill, learn a sport, or study facts, a little trench is carved into our brain tissue. This is also another reason it is hard to break a habit. A habit is physical. One must make a new brain groove to break a habit. By 21 days, a habit is well-formed.
This natural condition of the function of the brain helps us to learn–in the best-case scenario. In a worst-case scenario these thoughts become ditches of obsessive thoughts, vices, bad habits, sin, and worse. We learn to be bad, better. And, with all the technological interaction, we become more ill-at-ease, tired, nervous, restless, and unhappy, in fact. There is a physical change detectable on brain imaging equipment because of it. (So, you could say, it’s not just “in your head”. ha. groan. sorry.)
Food for thought? YES. Think about all the negative chatter that goes on in the mind, for instance, everyday, or even every hour. A person thinks about sixty thousand thoughts each day. Many are random thoughts and many are negative. Have you ever taken an hour and made a hatch mark for each non constructive or obsessive thought that comes to your mind? You could get a hand cramp!
There’s that song, “Be careful little eyes what you see…and little hands what you do…and little ears what you hear…” Well, yeah. Be careful. It matters.
We must watch our thoughts and actions, because they actually make up who we are.
Also if you feel a specific pattern occurring in your life, or notice habitual unhelpful thoughts afflicting you, you can know for certain they are creating an actual trench in your mind. So, take it as your own “red flag”.
See if you can “get a new groove” going. Consciously fasting from technology, even for a short bit, can give your groove-producing brain a well-needed break.
My friend Ed, recommends a needed 5 minute retreat, here. Good stuff!
The expression “a one track mind” is truer than we ever believed!
