Below are some of my “field notes” I collected from this extended and uncut interview with Brené Brown on Krista Tippet’s show “On Being”
[emotionally toxic / unhealthy] people suffer from similar traits:
• Perfectionism
• Self-righteousness
• Tying self-worth and personal value to productivity and success
• Wanting to perform and get validation
• Using exhaustion as a badge of honor
• The quest for certainty
Quote/snippets
• The enemy of creativity is comparison.
• Vulnerability is the core the heart and the center of meaningful human experience.
For woman the biggest fear/risk looks like this: “do it all and do it well and look perfect doing it”.
For man it looks like this: “do not appear to be weak”.
If people have never really struggled with adversity it shows up as hopelessness.
Hope is not an emotion; it’s a cognitive behavior process that is a function of struggle [and resiliency]. It doesn’t happen in the absence of pain or when we are spared pain.
Our defining moments (what makes us who we really are) happen not in joy but in adversity.
(Vulnerability is uncertainly, risk and emotional exposure ….and it’s courage. —my note: all things artists and innovators MUST have.)
When we don’t have space to be vulnerable and have fears we become dangerous.
If these sound like helpful, juicy nuggets to you, listen here: