Two things that don’t really go together are SPEED and Introspection.
But in 90 seconds, I think you can get off the blocks and make that crucial first step to the kind of growth that can only happen by linking up with the transcendent through your unique humanity. An inner gaze has to start somewhere. If not, we get stuck.
Be warned, once you look inward it can be painful. This is one reason why it happens too infrequently. The point though is to get started. Sometime during the holiday weekend I’ll post something of a followup. Creating a useful tool for yourself…the spiritual autobiography (which is something I too will be doing for my Masters class work. I hope you’ll join me).
For now, follow these simple steps:
- 1. Get paper and a pen
- 2. Jot down the first things that come to you mind as you read the list below. (Don’t linger on this list. Be speedy.)
- 3. Put away your paper for 1-3 days.
- 4. Revisit your notes in 1-3 days when you have 20 minutes or more. (I’ll remind you, here at the blog.)
Consider these questions:
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Look at your failed or troubled relationships and list similarities, and note what makes you angry about them, or things you fear.
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Examine past patterns and recurring themes in your thoughts and behavior. Note any patterns that you see.
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Uncover the commonalities in your interpersonal difficulties. Do the same troubles with others come back again and again? Note them.
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Label areas of stagnation in your life, (i.e. work, relationships, poor habits, etc.).
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Consult with trusted friends and objective sources to ferret out problem areas. Okay, this takes some time, so for now jot down a few names.
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Include a list of your good qualities/strengths, and places or ways you find encouragement. [This should be easy, because it’s the feel good part. Briefly, look for all the good you can and mark it down.]
(So, what did you think about these questions? Was it hard to do?)