Eps 80: Exploring Pride, Confidence, and Success, Guest Dr. Jessica Tracy

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Today’s guest is Dr Jessica Tracy, the leading expert on the emotion of pride. Jess is a Professor of Psychology at the University of British Columbia and a Canadian Institute for Health Research New Investigator. Her work is currently supported by a Canadian Institute for Health Research (CIHR) Operating Grant. She is an Associate Editor at Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: Interpersonal Relationships and Group Processes. 


 

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MIN 2

There are 2 kinds of Pride.

Dr Tracy’s new book on the topic.

The distinction between emotions and how pride is expressed.

Universal expressions of pride in humans around the world.

4:40

Both kinds of pride lead to power–both different kinds.

A self evaluation is needed for the emotion of pride.

Amy Cuddy’s book Presence

(Power poses produce certain chemicals that help us succeed.)

MIN 7:00

Shame

A gobal negative sense of self.

Pride and shame body expression in congenitally blind athletes.

MIN 9

Dr Tracy became interested in studying more complexed emotions. Paul Ekman showed that 6 distinct emotions were recognized all over the world (1960s) and determined through facial expressions. Similarly pride was determined to be an emotion due to bodily expressions.

MIN 13:30

Do other primates have expressions of pride and what is it like?

MIN 17:00

Humans notice high status expressions in pride body language.

18:30

Dominance and Prestige both work to get power.

Dominance and success.

Types of tasks and types of leaders and types of pride.

23:30

Avoiding the wrong kind of pride.

Authentic pride is a huge motivator.

MIN 25:30

Looking for praise (which can lead to bragging) for the feelings of pride instead seeing the accomplishments for the sense of pride.

Social costs to hubristic pride ( which gets you power or status) but creates situations where others don’t like you.

26:30

[ictt-tweet-inline]A big misconception about pride is that it should be avoided.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

Pride strengthens our identity.

Our society determines what we feel the emotion of pride about.

A caution:
Don’t get caught of in the great feelings of pride and get grandiose and forget why you did the good thing you did.

WEBSITE LINK: Emotion Lab and Dr Tracy’s work. ubc-emotionlab.ca


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Soul School-Lesson 50: The Fountain of Life EXPLAINED (part 1)

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Proverbs and other wisdom literature contain truisms and practical help and guidance for not promises.

Truism – a statement of common obvious truth.

MIN 2 David A Dorsey

Read a chapter in the book of PROVERBS

For the ancients, the heart was not the seat of emotions (like we tend to see it now).
The heart was seen like we might see the mind today. Or a combination of the mind, heart, and will–the core of a person. For the ancients, the emotions resided in the bowels.

The language of the wisdom literature and choosing the right path.


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Eps 79: How to Fly (at will) in Your Dreams–guest, Robert Waggoner

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Today’s guest is lucid dream expert, Robert Waggoner. We discuss remembering dreams, overcoming nightmares, PTSD, trauma, grief, and how to lucid dream (gain consciousness and control of your actions and dreams themselves while you are dreaming).robertwaggoner

MIN 2

Scientific proof for lucid dreaming (discovered in sleep lab studies)

REM sleep (the brain state where dreams happen)

MIN 3:30

Robert’s dream life from childhood onward

Precognitive dreams – Dreaming something before it happens.

Robert feeling that dreaming maybe tapping into God in a timeless realm.

6:30

Half of people don’t seem to recall their dreams at all.

Keeping a dream journal

9:30

3 Reasons you don’t remember your dreams

12:30

Important reasons why we might delve into working with our dream life at all?

17:00

Using dreams for healing.

26:30

Mutual lucid dreaming

30:00

Dreams for healing phobias, anxiety, emotional healing, to aid in mediation, bad habits, obsessions, etc.

35:00

Meditation within the dream

Dream yoga, Michael Katz

Clare Johnson better meditation in waking life.

Caroline McCready, Robert’s co-author

39:30

Ask to feel a quality of the divine or unconditional love.

42:30

How to wake up within a dream.

The lucid experience.

The website: dreaminglucid.com

BOOKS author and co-authored by Robert:

46:30

Discovering your uncovered self.

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Eps 78 – Guest, Peter Rollins on Lacking the Lack, Fighting Ghosts, and Reveling in the Raveling

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MIN 1:30
How the use of story enhanced Peter’s talks.

Video Example:

The Power of Parable from Peter Rollins on Vimeo.

His book containing parables:

His “friend” Sheamus

Pints and Parables events

4:30
Pub culture in Ireland and not running from doubts and pain.
(Repression is the term in psychoanalysis)

Sharing in each other’s suffering.

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]Parables are a technology that help us look at painful things not directly so we can cultivate a grace in our lives and toward other people.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

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9:00
JRR Tolkien
Eucatastrophe  (a good undoing, like the kind that happen in Fairy Stories)
Irish culture / music / art

Shane Tucker’s podcast

Green Belt Festival

The 18 foot woman in a dress at IKON. Ravel and unravel.

13:30 Pete’s Memento Mori

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Pete’s Happy Reaper jacket pin

Something to remind you of death.
• Pete’s happy reaper memento mori.
• Lack and nothingness has a painful side but there is a way to find a fuel from it for life and living.

The painters called the Dutch Masters featured a theme: Vanity / futility of life.

Pieter Claesz, "Vanitas" 1630
Pieter Claesz, “Vanitas” (1630)

The authentic, lively and cohesive pub [juxtaposed with] the vacuous and lonely night club.

The IKON community

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]We already are depressed and don’t know it.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

We say “Gone and not forgotten.”
The truth is usually “Forgotten but not gone.”

19:00
Believing in ghosts and hauntings.
A ghost is the presence of an absence.

Community can help us with our ghosts and make peace with them.

22:00
Friendly Fire Event (link)

Pyrotheology from Peter Rollins on Vimeo.

PyroTheology – Theory and Technology
5 academics

Engaging the Journal looking at the 5 critiques

Atheism for Lent course

Facebook LIVE events (link)
Philosophy for the streets

26:00
WAKE (2017) Festival in Belfast

Irish way to remember the life of the one who has dies and celebrate life for the living.

30:30
The Divine Magician (book link)


“God talk is often talk about ourselves with a megaphone “ -Karl Barth

The Vanishing Act of God the purposeful ambiguity in the title (Is God vanishing or doing the vanishing?)

Who is the magician? The Priest? The believer? God?
Liturgy is the technology of Theology.

The sacred object: The Forbidden Fruit is the first sacred object.

Video of Pete:

Tearing The Temple Curtain from Peter Rollins on Vimeo.

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]God is not an object that we love. God is that which we find in the act of love itself.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

3 Elements of the magic trick: The Pledge (The Object), the Turn (The Disappearance), the Prestige (The Object returns as something else)

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]The Eucharist includes the 3 parts of the magic trick.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

40:00
Pete’s event and speaking schedule

On naps!

45:00
Costs of living and why he lives in LA now.
Freedom from the pursuit of what will make you happy.

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]The tyranny of happiness is at its worst in Los Vegas and LA[/ictt-tweet-inline]

47:30
The serpent says,
“If you eat the fruit then you will be like God.”
(To lack the lack that we feel.)

• The serpent is called the superego in psychoanalysis.

Crush the head of the serpent.

49:00
Why and how Pete jogs in LA

Some other books by Pete you should check out!

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Eps 77: Guest, Srini Rao – Being Unmistakable and Recovering From Failure

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Trini Rao – CEO of Unmistakable Creative Media

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1:00
Early influences on Srini
Indian heritage and culture, moving a lot

3:00
Meeting new people is exciting

Community and solitude both play a part.

4:30
Being resilient and recovering from failure

6:30
Unmistakeable
Why Only is Better than Best
“Unmistakable: Why Only Is Better Than Best”


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9:00
Being imitative. Finding your unmistakable thing.

Steal Like an Artist

Plagiarism vs. Research

Having patience

Taking outside advice and mistakenly learning to become dependent on it.

12:00
[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]Your bliss is different than your calling.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

There is no business to be made from certain passions.

Businesses have to be market-driven, not passion-driven.

15:00
On being fired from all his jobs.

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]If you’re comfortable there is no reason to change–and you can be miserable and still comfortable.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

Working 7 years before he got a book deal and some of it is pure luck.

We don’t want to sell the truth, we want to sell the dream.

20:30
The reality of who succeeded.
We sell independence but we breed dependence.

David Burkus. You’re paying for access once you realize the truth and there is some community.

22:30
How the Unmistakable Brand and look evolved.

25:00
No formula for picking guests.
Hero’s journey

28:00
What’s new from Srini?

29:00
What is Unmistakable about his new book?

The link to Srini’s blog on Medium

seth’s blog

31:00
Next: A creative habits focused-book, practical

unmistakablecreative.com
facebook.com/srinirao


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