Soul School Lesson 38 – Unconventional Thoughts on Suicide and Depression

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This is a really personal Soul School and maybe the hardest one I’ve done yet.

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It’s easier sometimes to act like very dark thoughts happen to other people. Growing up, Jesus and the hope of heaven was suppose to cure me of any hopelessness, fear, despair, and existential angst. It was seldom that simple. My life often felt sad, tumultuous, and complicated. There seem to be people that experience Jesus (or the idea of Jesus) like a “happy pill”…sometimes this was true for me. But, often, it wasn’t. I felt like the Bible character Job, a lot.

Some might accuse me of having too little faith. But, if you have all the answers, you don’t need faith at all. Certainty is faith-killing. I rely on faith, because I’m on a journey into the unknown. A journey of discovery. And, I need to be brave, especially now. Maybe you do too.

Unforeseen suffering or brain chemistry (or both) slings some of us onto another path and the easy answers and promises fall short sometimes. So, if that’s been your situation, I want you to know that you’re not alone. Don’t feel ashamed. Let’s do this together.

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Today, on Soul School, I expose the shame and silence about dark moods and the rather common thoughts of suicide and despair some of us face. I want you to hear my story so that you can share your story and together we will all be better for it.

Please, seek the help you need, despite what those around you know or don’t know about your feelings and situation; and despite what they think you should do about it.

The U.S. national hotline to speak to someone, right now, is 1-800-273-TALK. (1-800-273-8255) or go to SUICIDE.ORG

Speak to someone: someone you know is wise, if you have a loving family member seek that one out, a trusted friend, a supportive spiritual guide from your religious tradition, or someone trained to help. There are so many who are willing and able to help you.

Just being open about it takes the teeth out of it and gets you out of the shadows and to where you can be seen, heard, and loved.

Your cries for help will not go unnoticed if you reach out until you find connection. Your story isn’t over yet.

• If you have pervasive (rather than passing) thoughts of suicide or a detailed plan to end your life, I ask you to seek professional medical attention immediately.

• Please stay. Tell me your story-let’s both stay.


Because today’s information could save lives, please pass it along as you are able.


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Below are the books mentioned in the program today:

 

Victor Frankl


Jennifer Michael Hecht

 


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Soul School – Lesson 37: Moving BEYOND Personification

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When I was little, I pictured God as an old white man with a white beard, just like I had seen in paintings. He was mostly scary. He could be very loving and kind, but he also had a bad temper and would deal out very harsh punishments (just like my dad did, strangely enough. Well, it’s not strange at all, really.) Children have a hard time picturing the abstract, so pictures and stories can help, but they only take us so far. Spiritual growth and personal growth demand more.

Here, just the Father's beard could wipe out planet Earth

Today, I’ll talk about moving beyond how we tend, even as adults, to personify God much like children do with rabbits in storybooks. Please pass along the episode to someone else and chat about it with your friends. Or contact me with your thoughts, if you’d like.

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Soul School – Lesson 36: AUTOMATICALLY Ascribing Malice

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Today is a quick lesson about a knee-jerk reaction nearly all of us have and what is REALLY going on.

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• Hanlon’s razor (description link)


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Soul School – Lesson 35: The Mysteries of Mysticism

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I hear lot of people batting around the terms “mystic”, “mysticism”, and “contemplative” lately, so I thought it might be helpful to speak about what some of these terms and concepts mean and speak about some common misunderstandings too.

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Soul School – Lesson 34: A Flexible Perspective on Suffering

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If you want to be healed from past or present issues, getting emotional distance and a proper perspective from your painful thoughts, worries, and experiences is crucial. Easier SAID than done, right?

In the world of therapy, Dr Steven Hayes developed a powerful technique to facilitate that distance and achieve what is called “psychological flexibility”.

Humans are particularly good at achieving psychological flexibility, if we practice; and the basics are easy to understand.

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• His therapy is call ACT: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. The clinical studies demonstrate how successful the approach is. I encourage you to find out more after you finish the short Soul School episode. Watch his video and use the link to his website below.

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In this video he explained how his sudden onset anxiety disorder helped him come up with a therapy to create mental flexibility and distance that could be taught and demonstrated successful in clinical trails.


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