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of Episode 91, that features my guest Alan Fadling, the author of the book An Unhurried Life, and the founder of Unhurried Living Inc.*
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91- Finding an Unhurried, Peaceful Life–free of Burnout, Guest Alan Fadling
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For the later half of the 20th Century people would refer to a phenomenon of undergoing a “mid-life crisis”. After growing up, getting an education, having a career or family, or both, people would get to about mid-life and not be sure why they were doing what they were doing; or what any of it meant anymore, or who they really were anyway. Some would buy sports cars, or run off with their young secretaries, or quit their jobs, go back to school, start writing poetry, start a new hobby, revive their religion or start into a new one, or go on a motorcycle ride across the country. Many others would trudge, more quietly, through it until it was over and they found their way again.
But, in the last 20 years along came another term “the quarter-life crisis”. This referred to people at the beginning of adulthood–perhaps just out of college or working for a few years, or recently married, or putting off marriage. The angst and the quandaries were similar and these people struggled deeply wondering what they should do and be in the world.
Now, these types of Identity Crises periods seem to happen often to people–even every few years, and this episode of Soul School goes into why and what can be done about it.
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Today’s guest is Dr Jessica Tracy, the leading expert on the emotion of pride. Jess is a Professor of Psychology at the University of British Columbia and a Canadian Institute for Health Research New Investigator. Her work is currently supported by a Canadian Institute for Health Research (CIHR) Operating Grant. She is an Associate Editor at Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: Interpersonal Relationships and Group Processes.
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The distinction between emotions and how pride is expressed.
Universal expressions of pride in humans around the world.
4:40
Both kinds of pride lead to power–both different kinds.
A self evaluation is needed for the emotion of pride.
Amy Cuddy’s book Presence
(Power poses produce certain chemicals that help us succeed.)
MIN 7:00
Shame
A gobal negative sense of self.
Pride and shame body expression in congenitally blind athletes.
MIN 9
Dr Tracy became interested in studying more complexed emotions. Paul Ekman showed that 6 distinct emotions were recognized all over the world (1960s) and determined through facial expressions. Similarly pride was determined to be an emotion due to bodily expressions.
MIN 13:30
Do other primates have expressions of pride and what is it like?
MIN 17:00
Humans notice high status expressions in pride body language.
18:30
Dominance and Prestige both work to get power.
Dominance and success.
Types of tasks and types of leaders and types of pride.
23:30
Avoiding the wrong kind of pride.
Authentic pride is a huge motivator.
MIN 25:30
Looking for praise (which can lead to bragging) for the feelings of pride instead seeing the accomplishments for the sense of pride.
Social costs to hubristic pride ( which gets you power or status) but creates situations where others don’t like you.
26:30
[ictt-tweet-inline]A big misconception about pride is that it should be avoided.[/ictt-tweet-inline]
Pride strengthens our identity.
Our society determines what we feel the emotion of pride about.
A caution:
Don’t get caught of in the great feelings of pride and get grandiose and forget why you did the good thing you did.
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