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Today, I’m featuring my notes and reflections from the work of @thishumanmoment . Session 2 was called Friendship with the Unknown with Keith Yamashita of SYPartners and @kristatippettof the On Being Project, among others. She featured audio and the sagacious ideas of poet @Johnodonohue .John’s latest book introduced in 2018 is Walking in Wonder: Eternal Wisdom for a Modern World and a list of his other work is available HERE .
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Broadcasting pro, Lori Neff is back, as promised, and this time we have a great conversation spanning a few interesting topics and we have plenty of fun and laughter along the way too.
Visit Lori’s website HERE and make sure to listen to her new podcast that offers a variety of prayer exercises that can breathe fresh life into your devotional practice!
What was the biggest fiasco at Midday connection?
Why is just a 5 year window the ideal beauty apex for women we’ve agreed to anyway?
Will powdered wigs make a comeback?
Lori’s tale of the cringe-worthy “friend-date” gone wrong…
What makes a great friend and what might an improv class have to do with it?
MIN 6
Do people often try to trick the call in shows?
MIN 8:30
The stickiness of the one mean person in a sea of good folks.
Hate mail
MIN 11
Ellen DeGeneres is okay with herself and it’s served as an inspiration for being okay with people who don’t like us.
MIN 14
Being okay in your own skin. The 40 year old happy milestone.
MIN 15
Anne Lamott thinking about her looks.
MIN 16
Going through the body-consciousness and anxiety in one’s 20s.
MIN 17
I’m supposed to be upset about how I look so they can sell products.
MIN 17:30
Michelle Van Loon
The five years of life that is cherished as valuable.
MIN 18:30
Powdered wigs and white faces to reflect the value of aged beauty of the time. The construct of cultural beauty changes radically.
MIN 19:30
Dress hem lines changed because of health concerns.
MIN 21:00
Fashion, modesty and mindlessness.
MIN 23:30
Friendship was solace and rescue for me (Lisa).
MIN 25:30
Lori’s experience with friendships early on.
MIN 26:30
How personality played a part and how her wonderful college roommate taught her how to be a good friend and have a healthy fight / disagreement.
MIN 28:00
People would commonly ask “How do I find friends?”
“I feel disconnected and I don’t feel I have a best friend” was a common report from listeners who contacted Midday Connection.
MIN 28:30
Being intentional about finding and keeping friends.
MIN 29:30
Friends for a season.
MIN 30:00
The tale of a bad “friend date”.
Friendship is a vulnerable risk. The emotional risk is there.
MIN 34:00
The challenge of couple friendships.
MIN 37:30
How men and women do friendship differently and how personality plays a part.
MIN 38:00
Having a club or a project to build the friendship around.
MIN 39:30
How Lori got into Improv and starting having a blast.
The tools that improv brings.
MIN 42:00
Amy Pohler “Yes, Please”
NPR show improv.
“yes, and”
Learning to be with others. Life-giving. learning love and empathy
MIN 43:00
I see you and here’s something else. I’m not invalidating you. and I’m going to add to it and then you can add to it. A socially healthy mode of being.
Being authentic and flexible.
MIN 44:00
Teamwork and sometimes it goes a direction you didn’t think it would go. You have to let the spark go and help the other person and the team.
MIN 45:30
Ego crushing?
MIN 46:00
Do things ever get messy?
Trust in the team and trust that the good idea with come back around.
MIN 46:30
The hilarious Office episode with Michael Scott being bad at improv. (Season 2 / Episode 9)
MIN 48:00
Going with the process and not be tense about life and improv of regular life.
the fear block our creativity and the ability to be present in the ordinary moment
MIN 50:30
The improv mindset will help in friendship.
MIN 51:00
Thinking of things as play and roll with things.
MIN 53:00
My new book is here. I’ll be reading some excerpts from it on the podcast soon, so watch for a bonus episode very in a day or so.
It’s called FORKED: A Discernment Pocket Guide (for Choosing Between Two Good Things).
If you’re in the middle of a tough decision or at a crossroads season of your life, this is the resource for you. To read a sample click HERE.
BIO: Nicole Unice is on staff at Hope Church in Richmond, Virginia, and the author of the breakout book: “She’s Got Issues” which she wrote from her counseling and ministry experiences. The book produced and encouraged a refreshing and radical honesty that she’s built on in her new book “Brave Enough”.
Enjoy the Shownotes and links below and please share this with friends that you know CAN be “Brave Enough“. Thanks for listening!
#GetBraveEnough
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~Lisa
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on the Richmond VA place and new midtown location.
1:30
Nicole’s podcasting experience (the Becoming Podcast) doing hundreds of episodes with her pastor doing 15 minutes shows for commuters.
Lisa asks: Is “campus” a Christian code word for mega church?
2:40
How she grew with Hope Church for 18 years, as they started out small in an elementary school “cafetorium”.
3;50
The “Youth Lodge” plans and the unique setting with wetlands and hills.
5:10
On the importance of Beauty, Setting, and Art in architecture and church building planning to evoke the imagination, inspire awe, and connect with the heart.
6:40
Collaborative workspace, and place where kids can do their homework and where people can enjoy the time away in a beautiful setting.
7:40
“artist come through the side door of the soul and preachers come through the front door.”
8:50
The history of the church and Christian tradition is one where the Church is source of beauty, wonder and connected to art because God is a the Creator.
9:40
Her first book: She’s Got Issues
6 main issues women (and men) face that can be a hinderance.
A rich relationship with God can come to a dead end as the ways we do life stop working.
12:00
How was it received? The #1 thing Nicole heard was, “You’re so honest.”
Why would honesty be such a revolution in Christianity?
12:40
She leaned into that for her next book “Brave Enough”
13:00
The story of how she got the title for the book:
To the question, “Do you think you can be brave?” Lucy Pevensie in the Chronicles of Narnia says, “I think I can be brave enough.”
14:35
Few women will self-identify as brave. [and not many men will either]
“After we identify the hinderances, what does it look like to walk forward in freedom?”
15:00
Brave Enoughis about Grace and its effects, inside and in action.
15:40
Nicole answering the question: Do men have the same problems in this area?
16:00
“Women hearing teaching from women is like hearing in your first language.”
16:30
Ways Nicole leads and teaches men.
17:00
on how women have to translate teaching from men into their “language” and context.
18:00
On how, similarly, Brené Brown was challenged (by a man) to include men in her writing and teaching. (Lisa)
18:40
How men and women have similar vulnerabilities though they might deal with them differently.
19:40
“up speak” tones in language in women and men revealing different insecurities. (Lisa)
21:00
Nuggets from the Brave Enough book:
How the ingredients mixed into something she didn’t expect. It follows a narrative “arch of the heart”. How we can be full and free and confident in life.
22:30
on why (inner) freedom is illusive for men and women.
On “Fake Grace” in our head. (the excuses we make or how we blame others). Inviting God/Jesus into those places.
24:10
We all (default) and go back to rules and laws and how to short circuit that pattern.
It’s about resetting the heart with a new spiritual reality.
25:00
Radical honesty about our ugly parts inside the heart.
25:30
Nicole’s Parable: The violently stopping of the elevator door…(and how it relates to our soul).
26:10
Open ourselves to God’s Presence and healing.
26:10
(Lisa) God uses what bothers us about other people is a mirror of what we don’t like in ourselves.
27:20
How our baggage works to impede our progress.
Brave Enough includes major parts on forgiveness
28:00
God’s breathing on us and giving us the mission of forgiveness, first.