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Unlearning the Business Model [SSL 311]

What does a revival of spiritual formation look like?

In my opinion, it will look like the opposite of the business model that we’ve superimposed on most aspects of our lives. When procuring success in the marketplace and the church spheres, ways of doing things often do more long-term damage than good for the humans involved. Let’s converse about this.

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Eps 123: The THREE Emotions that Build Grit and Grace for Lasting Success, guest Dr David DeSteno

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Eps 80: Exploring Pride, Confidence, and Success, Guest Dr. Jessica Tracy

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MIN 2

There are 2 kinds of Pride.

Dr Tracy’s new book on the topic.

The distinction between emotions and how pride is expressed.

Universal expressions of pride in humans around the world.

4:40

Both kinds of pride lead to power–both different kinds.

A self evaluation is needed for the emotion of pride.

Amy Cuddy’s book Presence

(Power poses produce certain chemicals that help us succeed.)

MIN 7:00

Shame

A gobal negative sense of self.

Pride and shame body expression in congenitally blind athletes.

MIN 9

Dr Tracy became interested in studying more complexed emotions. Paul Ekman showed that 6 distinct emotions were recognized all over the world (1960s) and determined through facial expressions. Similarly pride was determined to be an emotion due to bodily expressions.

MIN 13:30

Do other primates have expressions of pride and what is it like?

MIN 17:00

Humans notice high status expressions in pride body language.

18:30

Dominance and Prestige both work to get power.

Dominance and success.

Types of tasks and types of leaders and types of pride.

23:30

Avoiding the wrong kind of pride.

Authentic pride is a huge motivator.

MIN 25:30

Looking for praise (which can lead to bragging) for the feelings of pride instead seeing the accomplishments for the sense of pride.

Social costs to hubristic pride ( which gets you power or status) but creates situations where others don’t like you.

26:30

[ictt-tweet-inline]A big misconception about pride is that it should be avoided.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

Pride strengthens our identity.

Our society determines what we feel the emotion of pride about.

A caution:
Don’t get caught of in the great feelings of pride and get grandiose and forget why you did the good thing you did.

WEBSITE LINK: Emotion Lab and Dr Tracy’s work. ubc-emotionlab.ca

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Eps 77: Guest, Srini Rao – Being Unmistakable and Recovering From Failure

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Trini Rao – CEO of Unmistakable Creative Media

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1:00
Early influences on Srini
Indian heritage and culture, moving a lot

3:00
Meeting new people is exciting

Community and solitude both play a part.

4:30
Being resilient and recovering from failure

6:30
Unmistakeable
Why Only is Better than Best
“Unmistakable: Why Only Is Better Than Best”


[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]If you are unmistakable, you don’t need a signature.[/ictt-tweet-inline]
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Being imitative. Finding your unmistakable thing.

Steal Like an Artist

Plagiarism vs. Research

Having patience

Taking outside advice and mistakenly learning to become dependent on it.

12:00
[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]Your bliss is different than your calling.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

There is no business to be made from certain passions.

Businesses have to be market-driven, not passion-driven.

15:00
On being fired from all his jobs.

[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]If you’re comfortable there is no reason to change–and you can be miserable and still comfortable.[/ictt-tweet-inline]

Working 7 years before he got a book deal and some of it is pure luck.

We don’t want to sell the truth, we want to sell the dream.

20:30
The reality of who succeeded.
We sell independence but we breed dependence.

David Burkus. You’re paying for access once you realize the truth and there is some community.

22:30
How the Unmistakable Brand and look evolved.

25:00
No formula for picking guests.
Hero’s journey

28:00
What’s new from Srini?

29:00
What is Unmistakable about his new book?

The link to Srini’s blog on Medium

seth’s blog

31:00
Next: A creative habits focused-book, practical

unmistakablecreative.com
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1:30

1. It’s hard to pray to God as Father when you’ve had a bad dad. What should I do?

• How do we think about God? (usually like a human person or institution)

• God is Spirit not an old white man in the sky with a long beard.

What adjectives will help you connect with the Being typically called “God”

4:00

Hebrew word for God is a description too (yahweh “I am” a verb) that was not used. Adonai  was substituted and that simply means “Master/Lord” and is a term of respect.

4:30

It’s misguided to think that God can be contained or described well using a “Proper Noun”. God can’t be called a proper name/noun…like “Billy” (and that would make Jesus “Billy Jr.”).

Hebrew names are descriptive when referring to people (not how we use names to address people today).

5:00

YAHWEH (Hebrew word), means I AM (or “is”) and works like a verb denoting Presence an Love in Action. It defies typical proper names and descriptions.

5:50

2. On Forgiveness

“What should I do to forgive when I can’t forget?”

6:10

Forgiving is a continual process.

Thinking of forgiveness as transactional–a debt clearing mechanism. Be an accountant and don’t worry about your emotions being on the same page.

7:20

Remembering that you are not your thoughts.

8:00

What Justice is actually (Shalom). Making things right and reconciliation.

8:50

3. What to do about envying others (in this case writers in the field) and being jealous of their success.

9:15

Seeing the negative emotions as tools. Reframing them to use them to find our calling, gifts, and passions.

9:30

Not getting caught up in “should” and “oughts” and comparisons.

9:45

When you can say of your work, “Wow, I get to do this!” you can have enough gratitude to be comfortable with the success of others.

10:15

It’s common and normal to get feelings of jealousy. It’s only when the take over our hearts and mind do we need to reevaluate and recalibrate what we are doing and thinking.

11:00

Deciding that the options of other people and the opinions should have huge power is a choice we can change.

12:05

4. Getting over feeling guilt and shame that keeps resurfacing.

Daring Greatly Brene Brown (the difference between guilt and shame.

• Guilt is important so we can learn and correct and grow and become better people.

• Shame is a belief that something, un fixable, is wrong with you.

Shame whispers lies in your ears. Shame becomes a decision of who we are as person.

14:05

Being put to shame by parents and others.

14:50

A mistake isn’t part of who you are.

Redemption is always possible. You can start anew.

15:10

My caveat.

15:50

5. Church isn’t working for me anymore and I feel guilty leaving the church, but I don’t feel fed.

In the U.S. we often go to church as a consumers and look for what we can get out of it. Church can be piss poor.

17:00

Look for ways to give and minister and find connection in other ways.

18:00

For me, small groups were a starting point that lead me to seminary.

18:50

Bringing back the potluck and sharing life with people.

19:30

Sometimes we sense church isn’t “working” when meaningful connection is lacking.

20:30

“we” is better than “me”.

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