As you hear and enjoy this episode of Spark My Muse, please remember to contribute something to my out-of-pocket costs to create this material for you.
Have you been EXPECTING DeLays?
DeLayed gratification is good for the soul….but wait no longer!
Today’s guest is TAD DeLAY.
.
(Tad and I are not related, but we both enjoy the humor that comes along with having an odd last name.)
Tad is interested in the intersections of Continental philosophy, theology, psychoanalysis, critical theory, and politics and is a PhD student (philosophy of religion and theology) at Claremont Graduate University, and holds an MA philosophy and an MA theology. He sees his vocation as aiming to make theory public. His second book, The Cynic & the Fool, will be available in late 2016.
(Share a clip from the show by using the Clammr app below.)
If there is no God nothing is possible anymore -a play on Dostoevsky.
The Big Other gives us reference to authorizes us to do something.
(you’d second guess everything)
The void that the gods are covering over.
Removing gods doesn’t do as much as you think.
MIN 8:30
The people not afflicted by “the Big Other” are psychotic
They are not liberated.
MIN 10:30
Shared norms and morals the beginnings of society. A collective neurosis. “The Good” “The right” “The gods”
In a sense there is failure of those social rules to regulate those rules in a psychotic.
13:30 The Cynic and Fool
14:30
Sigmund Frued people engage in repetitive behaviors that don’t work because we appreciate the certainty. There is some pleasure in feeling guilty.
15:00
Story of the the compliant good girl
Does the Big Other is dead but does the Big Other know he’s dead
18:00
We change the language around but we keep the essential language around of trying to please the Big Other and keep that in place.”
20:30
When Identity Signifiers aren’t working in your life.
Rank and identity
MIN 22:00
Psychoanalyst is interested in only what doesn’t work b/c what doesn’t work is what people are enjoying the most.
MIN 23:30
What the Cynic and Fool means and the 3 problems upfront.
The fiction underlying most binaries.
cynic – manipulation, means to an end. fool – believing directly or wish.
Institutional pressures.
MIN 29:00
Job prospects for seminary students who learn thing their congregations wouldn’t want to believe.
MIN 31:00
A Lacan example:
Leftist foolish desire
Right wing crook honesty
The base of every ritual- organize into something productive
ontological – the way things are – we will die moral – we might be guilty spiritual – we we question whether our life will be meaningless
Eucharistic as an example.
means connection for some
means comfort for some
means justice for others
minimizes anxiety
MIN 40:00
Anxiety never lies.
Anxiety DOES have an object but it’s usually imaginary.
Anxiety THEN doubt. (not the other way)
You don’t have say in what you believe.
Keep anxiety at bay by staying ambiguous.
Anxiety is at the base of religion and rituals and even beliefs themselves.
[ictt-tweet-inline via=””]“Orthodoxy is what you hold on to when you have nothing left to say about the doctrine itself.” -via @taddelay[/ictt-tweet-inline]
(Tweet that amazing quote–just click the blue bird.)
Certainty …holding anxiety at bay….and you feel certain because you are actually ambiguous .
MIN 46:00
The Kettle story
The book of Job and the 3 argument about suffering.
Today, is a special TWIN-cast. I’ve NEVER done this before and I’m excited! Brace yourself for this news:
Not only do I have Jeff on as a return guest today, but Jeff interviewed ME. That conversation is released today too. What a treat, right?
Find a link for that below at the end of the show notes.
DON’T FORGET about the Special 1-hour SOUL SCHOOL LIVE Event– this Wednesday, June 8th (2016) at 8pm, EDT. GET MORE INFO info here.
(If you’d like to share a piece of audio from this episode, click the red and white icon below.)
For just a scanty dollar you get get extra episodes, access to exclusive special events, online conversations and Q & As with me and other guests, and get to collaborate and decide things for the show like future guests, topics, swag, and lots more.
This show is listener-support and cannot last without your generous help. JUST CLICK HERE!
Ready for more?
SUBSCRIBE! New episodes come out TWICE per week.
And poke around. There’s lots to read and listen to.
Will you help support the show?
You can help me pay the bills by purchasing this useful and encouraging book!
(Already read it or feeling a bit more generous? Please use the donate button (see left column) to contribute to the show. Help me make awesome things for your ears to hear each week.Much Love & Thank you! ~L)
Shownotes for the Special “Ask Sparky” Episode: Responses to 5 Burning Questions
MIN
1:30
1. It’s hard to pray to God as Father when you’ve had a bad dad. What should I do?
• How do we think about God? (usually like a human person or institution)
• God is Spirit not an old white man in the sky with a long beard.
What adjectives will help you connect with the Being typically called “God”
4:00
Hebrew word for God is a description too (yahweh “I am” a verb) that was not used. Adonai was substituted and that simply means “Master/Lord” and is a term of respect.
4:30
It’s misguided to think that God can be contained or described well using a “Proper Noun”. God can’t be called a proper name/noun…like “Billy” (and that would make Jesus “Billy Jr.”).
Hebrew names are descriptive when referring to people (not how we use names to address people today).
5:00
YAHWEH (Hebrew word), means I AM (or “is”) and works like a verb denoting Presence an Love in Action. It defies typical proper names and descriptions.
5:50
2. On Forgiveness
“What should I do to forgive when I can’t forget?”
6:10
Forgiving is a continual process.
Thinking of forgiveness as transactional–a debt clearing mechanism. Be an accountant and don’t worry about your emotions being on the same page.
7:20
Remembering that you are not your thoughts.
8:00
What Justice is actually (Shalom). Making things right and reconciliation.
8:50
3. What to do about envying others (in this case writers in the field) and being jealous of their success.
9:15
Seeing the negative emotions as tools. Reframing them to use them to find our calling, gifts, and passions.
9:30
Not getting caught up in “should” and “oughts” and comparisons.
9:45
When you can say of your work, “Wow, I get to do this!” you can have enough gratitude to be comfortable with the success of others.
10:15
It’s common and normal to get feelings of jealousy. It’s only when the take over our hearts and mind do we need to reevaluate and recalibrate what we are doing and thinking.
11:00
Deciding that the options of other people and the opinions should have huge power is a choice we can change.
12:05
4. Getting over feeling guilt and shame that keeps resurfacing.
Daring Greatly Brene Brown (the difference between guilt and shame.
• Guilt is important so we can learn and correct and grow and become better people.
• Shame is a belief that something, un fixable, is wrong with you.
Shame whispers lies in your ears. Shame becomes a decision of who we are as person.
14:05
Being put to shame by parents and others.
14:50
A mistake isn’t part of who you are.
Redemption is always possible. You can start anew.
15:10
My caveat.
15:50
5. Church isn’t working for me anymore and I feel guilty leaving the church, but I don’t feel fed.
In the U.S. we often go to church as a consumers and look for what we can get out of it. Church can be piss poor.
17:00
Look for ways to give and minister and find connection in other ways.
18:00
For me, small groups were a starting point that lead me to seminary.
18:50
Bringing back the potluck and sharing life with people.
19:30
Sometimes we sense church isn’t “working” when meaningful connection is lacking.
20:30
“we” is better than “me”.
Thank you for listening and sharing the show with others. If you’ve gotten an enjoyment from Spark My Muse, come back every Wednesday for something new, or save your mental energy and subscribe!
Today is something I’m really excited to share with you:
With a provocative title like “Jesus Feminist” Sarah Bessey thought she knew what was coming. Today we will talk about the outcome of the book, the moment she understood about moving mountains in a new way, and her great advice to not save your best work. We welcome her today.
First,
I invite you to just listen, read, enjoy and then contribute something, if you can, to help it survive.
That’s all. :)
Thank you.
With Love,
-Lisa
Today’s recommendation for creators: For this episode I recommend a companion resource:
Soul Care for Creators and Communicators
This book offers a new way to see yourself and your calling. If you are someone who creates and communicates in everyday life, this is a great read you will enjoy!
WINE SEGMENT (Learn something about wine.)
What is ICE WINE?
Ice Wine is unique to northern climates (like Canada where Sarah Bessey is from).
Key takeaway: Grapes or fruit must be ripe and freeze before being picked to be ice wine.
What is ice wine like? The flavor is very fruity, very sweet, concentrated taste that tastes “icy”, and has a high alcohol content (like 25%). It should be served as a 1oz pour for a dessert or with a dessert. I recommend trying some!
Do you have questions about viticulture, wine grapes or wine? Send them to me.
18:00
Growing up in a Post-Christian context. Organic churches without denominations and an understanding of church history. Never sang a hymn until she was in her 20s.
20:07
Introduction to “church-ianity” (vs. christianity) and not a lot of comfort in her pain of loss and 4 miscarriages.
21:20
Her wilderness season. Draw toward ancient Christian traditions.
22:00
Coming back home again to happy-clappy Christians in a community center environment.
22:30
On being “ecclesiastically promiscuous”.
23:30
God laughs and says “See you can find me anywhere!”
24:00
Influence and Inspiration. Some of Sarah’s favorites.
![The consequences of emotionally immature parents; Dr Nicole LePera [SSL247]](https://lisadelay.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/EIP-825x510.png)
SHOW NOTES:
