EPS 29: If a House and a Tent had a Baby: A homesteader tells all

Today’s guest lives off-the-grid, but is still digitally connected: Esther Emery!

Esther, her husband Nick, and their three children have been homesteading–building a homemade home and sustainable lifestyle for several years! Scroll down for photos.

For most of us, the idea of living in a portable home–a tent/house mashup (a yurt), using an outhouse, an outdoor water source, making fire everyday, raising chickens for eggs and meat, cooking meals on a wood burning stove, and using their own power sources, on an ongoing basis seems way out of our comfort zone.

With grit and purpose, Esther and her family are challenging normal American, consumerist, status quo and foregoing many comforts we taken for granted. Their entirely different lifestyle decision that takes living responsibly to a whole new level. It’s a story worth sharing.

Why have they done it?
How do they make it work?
Could it ever be a lifestyle for you? Listen to find out.

Esther Emery
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SHOWNOTES:

MINUTE

2:00

If a house and a tent had a baby: A Yurt.

How did Esther and her husband Nick decide to homestead three years ago?

3:30

How she can be off the grid and still have internet and digitally connected with the world.

The stuff of power (solar power, gas generator for power tools and a water pump, and wood fuel.)

5:00

How a homesteading lifestyle is not much like camping. (you may rough it but that doesn’t make you a homesteader)

The feeling of wanting escape can make you want to homestead.

6:00

Esther’s mom was a public figure in the back-to-the-land movement in the 1970s.

7:30

How her family brings in income for the things, how they make themselves and manage their idea of necessity to keep everyone together as much as possible.

8:30

What does she know now that she wishes she had known when she started?

9:30

On making a road so the UPS truck can deliver packages.

12:30

The emotional experience that you have when you solve your own problems.

14:00

Know your “why” before you homestead.

15:00

The fears she didn’t anticipate, almost quitting homesteading after a year, and hungry bears.

17:30

The thing about “preppers” who are waiting for the apocalypse.

18:30

Limiting their carbon footprint, raising food, and creating new feeding systems.

20:30

Interdependence with the natural world and with others.

21:30

Building a timber frame house.

22:20

Building community with people who live nearby.

23:00

Learning to garden, animal husbandry, can vegetables, the life-cycle of a cooking fire and cook using a wood burning stove, and hunt.

25:00

The potbelly stove and the rocket stove.

27:30

Integrative community with compassion-based lifestyle as opposed to a scarcity-based lifestyle.

28:00

What she learned about her own character.

Valuing her own independence when she couldn’t get water for cooking, bathing and watering the animals.

30:00

“Hope is a function of struggle.” Brene Brown

31:00

How her kids like living the homesteading lifestyle.

33:30

Her writing projects:

What Falls From the Sky

Wood Stove Cooking skills ebook.

The  Homestead Wife

35:40

The homestead hobbies.

36:00

Her educational and faith background.

37:00

The story of her re-conversion to Christianity in her book than had been obscured in a pace of life.

Desire for justice in the world, the relation to the natural world, and perception of connection and authority of Jesus Christ and triangle that merged into an awakening.

39:20

Images of the homestead (included below).

The concept of permanence and not thinking about it as a fling someday, like the back-to-the-land movement of the 1970s.

Why it failed: Unreasonable expectations that aren’t as self-satisfying as you think they will be.

41:00

The romanticized notion of living a different lifestyle and not thinking about the emotional baggage that comes along with us where ever we go. How do we get the emotional stability we need when the major part of the adventure is over.

43:00 What her husband struggled with during the process of homesteading.

The concept of money and how it is useful to our imagine life without using it.

45:00

The rule about hanging out together.

PHOTO GALLERY:


 

EPS 28: Ways to Short-curcuit Perfectionism and Achieve Greatly

The strange and surprising ways we become more productive! Today’s guest is a lawyer, mom, writer, productive podcaster, and “productivity geek”, Laura McClellan.

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SHOWNOTES

MINUTE 2:00

How did this lawyer-by-day get involved with podcasting on Productivity?

Listening to Michael Hyatt podcast on her commute.

3:15

Cliff Ravenscraft Podcast: Podcasting AnswerMan

Taking his HOW TO course.

3:45

The two terrible fears that stopped her from following through at first.

Brene Brown Daring Greatly

the Brene Brown TED TALK

(with over 21 Million views)

5:30

What helped Laura overcome her fear and begin.

 

7:30

How we evolve in our endeavors and perfectionism is another word for fear.

8:00

Missing out on things because of fear.

10:00

On being okay with mistakes and building confidence.

11:00

The closet recording.

12:30

The  worldwide community we get to be a part of.

14:00

Meeting fans

15:00

Being a productivity geek and helping others (and herself) get organized.

19:00

“It’s not about getting more stuff done, but about getting the right stuff done.”

21:00

Having time to feed your soul.

22:00

Making a life that matters is different for everyone. It’s about asking the right questions first.

24:00

Her best tip is “write everything down and don’t try to remember everything.” This frees up “mental RAM” or bandwidth to be more productive.

26:00

Getting Things Done David Allan


Writing things down is a great strategy for getting to sleep or staying focused in prayer or writing a book, other things that need more mental energy than we realize.

28:00

Great ideas that come in  the shower.

Aqua Notes for the shower.

30:30

The myth of the efficiency in multi-tasking.

36:00

The concept of being truly productive revolves around concentrating on what a really essential and letting other things fall to the side.

36:00

Greg McKeown
Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

38:00

Saying “no” to the good to make space for the great.

39:00

The Pareto Principle

80/20 principle

41:00

How we measure our self worth.

Busyness is a badge of honor.

What are we fearing about ourselves.

42:00

Life before cell phones and being always accessible.

The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) syndrome

44:00

What Laura is afraid she’ll miss out on.

Not likely surprises and wanting to be informed or missing deals for her law firm.

45:00

On teaching yourself new habits to create more space.

47:20

“No one will respect your time if you don’t respect it. We teach people on to treat us.” (Lisa)

48:30

Deciding what values you want to live your life by and pass on opportunities outside those values.

50 :00

Getting a permission slip


 

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EPS 27: No Squeezing Chickens–A rhythm for creating your best work

 

 

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SHOWNOTES

INTRO to EPS 27
Andi Cumbo-Floyd found that farm life taught her about the divine whispers that ignite creativity. Now, she invites writers for workshops full of rest and fellowship. She welcomes and nurtures weary pilgrims to her beautiful rural retreat space so they can create in a safe and life-giving way.
AndiCumboFloyd

 

SHOWNOTES with links:

MNIUTE – 1:00-11:00 (intro)

Note-worthy links:

• The Contemplative Writer Facebook group

• The Slaves Have Names (Andi’s book about race relations and growing up on a former plantation.)

• Andi’s book about writing.

MNIUTE – 10:30

Monks don’t withdraw from the world to hide. They withdraw to pray and prayer is action. (Thomas Merton)

11:30

Storing up our reserves to be more powerful in the world as an agent for healing and change.

12:00God's Whisper Farm

On Andi’s writing retreat space called God Whisper Farms. Building the farm and fixing it up. Meeting her husband and getting goats and chickens and then relocating the farm to a place with 15 acres.

13:30

Mennonite Tradition. Pastor Jesse Johnson…God whispered (a.k.a. “still small voice”)

18:00

Upcoming residency for writers and artists to have a refuge and respite.

Andisgoats

19:00

Soul care

19:30

God’s Whisper Manifesto lays out the 10 principles for the farm.

20:40

Working with new writers. Goal-setting, the craft of writing, and connect with other writers.

22:00

Her advice for those who are stuck creatively:

Building silence into the day.

(Art comes from a stiller place.)

Kicking starting the process with poetry or lectio divinia.

Listening for your true voice and practicing the hearing needed for when that voice speaks.

24:00

Expectations and other things that block us from our true artistic voice.

Quieting the other voices that haven’t been helpful.

Not “shoulding” and thinking of “oughts”.

26:00

Henri Nouwen “What if God takes delight in the things that you take delight in?”

27:00

Anxiety-producing questions that make us feeling like we aren’t where we should be.

There is no writer’s block, only fear stops us.

28:00

The Wounded Healer – Henri Nouwen

28:30

Privacy and a nurturing environment to create.

30:30

Knowing we are good and we are loved.

31:00

The universality in creation that finds a home in others.

32:00

Andy’s background in faith and spirituality.

Her parents’ advise for attending a church, “Go where the community is the best.”

34:00

A winding spiritual journey: 3 Baptisms and ending up Anabaptist.

36:30

The breakdown of denominational labels.

38:00

Social Justice (apart from government solutions) and the Peace Tradition in the Anabaptist sphere.

Old order Mennonite

39:30

The Love Feast (and some churches do foot washing as a sacrament.)

40:30

(Lisa) Assembly church background.

41:30

Sabbath Rest and visiting friends and family.

43:00

How we stop knowing people at church. The rebellious potluck.

44:00

No assumption of guaranteed entertainment and 2 hours to relax and eat.

45:00

House churches and nurturing environments.

45:30

Her website: andilit.com

Quilt of Souls

47:10

The Coal Regions of the East and Yuengling Brewery

48:30

Breeding Goats and making soap and gathering eggs.

49:40

Nature will not be rushed.

50:00

You can’t squeeze chickens to get eggs when you want them. They are the boss.

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EPS 26: When Childhood Suffering is Transfigured into a Thriving Life

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INTRO TO THE EPS 26:

Melissa Wilson didn’t just survive mistreatment as a child, she worked to heal from it, redeem it, and establish a platform to help sufferers and advocate for those who are suffering now or wounded from the past.

Melissa converses with me about how she found healing and the joy of transforming her pain into a thriving website and podcast that shares stories of victory, triumph, and overcoming great odds.

Don’t let your past define you. Here are some ways you can move forward and even find a valuable mission in life.

MelissaWilson


SHOWNOTES with links

(These are approximate times in this audio broadcast.)

MIN 1:30

The Grass Gets Greener is Melissa’s project that has and continues to redeem and heal her past.

How did she begin to sense this path of helping and advocating for others?

2:00

Getting therapy and then being able to think about helping others.

10:00

How forgiveness played a huge part in the process of getting to a point of thriving and peace.

“If someone’s hurt us we forgiven for ourselves and not for the person who caused the pain.

13:20

The aspect of the continual forgiveness process.

15:00

Every story of surviving is important.

17:00

What helped her most in the process of healing and the first barrier that stood in her way was stigma.

18:00

The crisis event that sparked clarity to get therapy to heal.

20:00

How talking it out helped her and gave her confidence, and she even spent some time traveling in Europe alone.

22:00

How she developed social anxiety problems and then came to overcome them.

23:00

Post-Traumatic Stress symptoms and high adrenaline responses.

23:30

Finding a safe place and an outside perspective to find space from the trauma and grow in self-awareness.

25:00

The impact on relationships, trust, and bonding.

28:00

Rebounding and developing good friendship and meeting her now-husband as she got well.

31:00

On deciding what to make public.

33:00

Becoming who you really are and meeting new people at that point.

33:30

We attract people who are healthier because we are healthier.

34:00

“You have to connect with people who aren’t going to try to hurt you and who are going support you.”

35:30

Creating a family of choice, the core people who will help you be most well.

36:00

Connecting unawares with people who remind you of old pain.

36:30

You are most vulnerable on the road to recovery.

37:20

Feed your mind with the right stuff that’s going to inspire and motivate you and shift your mindset and body.

Here are resources that helped Melissa.


EPS 25: Best Productivity Hacks for Working from Anywhere

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Kyle Reed

Today, I’m joined by Kyle Reed.

Kyle’s free resources like his “Hack Monday” resource and the “Task Sheet” caught my attention as I’ve tried to figure out how to make best use of my time amid all the distractions. If you’re pressed for time or just want more mental bandwidth to be at your best, you’ll love our conversation.

• You can squeeze so much more out of your day if you plan it right–See the bottom of the show notes to link to his page of free resources that will make it all much easier and faster.

SHOWNOTES:

1:50

Many of us have lots of ideas. It’s the execution that’s the problem.

Productivity is the bigger issue.

How do we defeat ourselves as creatives and hard workers.

Creativity is mainly intangible.

4:10

Planning your day. Best tips and productive routines.

15 min that can save you hours.

Writing down tasks with time-tables and timers.

Minimizing distractions

Working at home challenges.

Respecting yourself as a person doing real work at home.

Making your home office feel legit

How to stop feeling like there is always more to do right now.

10:00

Pajama power?

Treating yourself as a professional.

13;30

The prevailing  myth that working at the office is productive even in high tech companies.

17:00

Trust issues and ensuring accountability with a boss and an office.

19:00

What environments best help creativity and productivity.

19:30

Company culture and values.

20:40

Kyle’s Productivity tools.

Having 5 million Facebook fans to take care of (from music celebrity accounts) made him rethink everything!

21:30

The Task Sheet tool.

Hack Monday tool (a tool for the week, month, and year)

23:00

Social media calendar tool for promoting content and projects.

Marketing template download to help write a marketing plan.

Taking the time to organize first saves so much time.

25:30

When to outsource tasks and the tools can help.

Batching tasks.

27:00

Entrepreneurs know how to take a calculated risk for the benefits it will reap later.

28:00

The fear that stops us from finishing.

29:00

The self talk that helps us get the work get.

Doing the work when it stinks.

31:00

The importance of relationship and being in a community of “doers”.

32:00

Using what has helped him and sharing it to build a following and meeting needs.

32:30

The 20-something blogger mentoring project that turned into a 500 person community.

34:30

Giving people resources and sticking with young adults.

37:00

The paralysis of too much information.

37:20

What is meant by “Standing on (the shoulder’s of) Giants”

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40:00

The Spark challenge I gave Kyle.

Identifying what we need to get done and what needs to be handed-off.


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